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Welcome back to the call your cousins podcast, a now tangible group chat of cousins that wanted to share our thoughts, humor, and growth with the world. And everyone's invited, most of y'all. Welcome back. Welcome back. Welcome back. This is the call your Cousins podcast. I am your host, a love here with a few very good people. I'm lucky enough to call them family today. We got p money on the mic. [00:01:48] Speaker B: Hey, we got. [00:01:52] Speaker A: We got twin here. [00:01:54] Speaker C: What's up? What's up, y'all? [00:01:57] Speaker A: And of course, the research team. We can't do it without her. [00:02:01] Speaker D: Hola. Come on, estas. [00:02:04] Speaker A: Good morning, fam. What's good with y'all, man? [00:02:08] Speaker C: I'm out of order, but I real fucked up about. [00:02:21] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah. Top of the show. We gotta say rest in peace to rich homie Quan. I think that's what twins alluding to. [00:02:29] Speaker C: Yeah. [00:02:30] Speaker A: How did that one hit y'all? [00:02:33] Speaker C: I thought I was straight, but on the way home from the club last night, I just had to blast my dog the whole way. In fact, I only went out because I was like, I just need one. One more time for the rich. Homie quan bruh. Atlanta native Decatur. Decatur west greater McNair high school. [00:02:56] Speaker A: Oh, yeah. That's out your way, huh? I know that hit home. [00:03:00] Speaker C: It did, man. 34. And then that's only two years younger than me. When people died as close to my age, I'd be like, what the hell? [00:03:09] Speaker A: Could have been me, right? [00:03:10] Speaker C: It could have been me. And then I feel like I was thinking about this last night. Anybody that really make it for real or any type of level musically in Atlanta, you got something for real? Cause it's a lot of talent in Atlanta, and a lot of them people don't make it. [00:03:28] Speaker B: That's a fact. [00:03:30] Speaker C: And they. And he had hits. Like, I feel like I kind of forgot because it was a whole little era. They start playing my dog in the club. I was like, amen. We lost the real one. R I p. I know I'm not out of order, y'all, but that really me up. [00:03:52] Speaker A: RP, it's all good. It was. It was weighing on you. It's all good. [00:03:55] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah. I think that's a good mental check in. Loss, grief, you know, it's a part of life. And, um, I think all of us, I. It's so strange because I really, really hate black young men dying young. I just hate it, you know, in perspective, you know, he only was 34, and that's just you. You feel like. Like you said, we. I mean, the way he used to show up with jeezy and at the moon in 0605. [00:04:39] Speaker D: I mean, it was a time. [00:04:41] Speaker B: It was a time, you know, and so as. As. As those of us that experienced him and his prime, I think that it's just, you know, it's a part of life, so that's not a bad check in. Grief. Grief, you know, will do that. An unexpected loss is always sad. So, RP to Quan, we gonna miss you. But all for real. [00:05:12] Speaker C: For real and open about his addiction. Y'all be careful with the drugs. Y'all do. And we not judgmental on here, but be careful. Breath as you could. Just not wake up. And I know life be hard. When I was in my low point, I was doing a lot of stuff. Call the people, take the prescriptions, go for a walk, whatever you got to do. But don't be buying it. Don't be buying the crazy stuff because you could just not wake up, bro, that's my mental health check in. But other than that, I'm good. You know, like you said, p, sometimes loss, even on a surface level, like this, like, I ain't know that man, but, you know, he's part of the culture. Sometimes it kind of fuck with you. So rip my dog. And when we. Now we're talking about grieving now. [00:06:09] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:06:10] Speaker C: Are the side pieces able to grieve as well? [00:06:16] Speaker B: Um, yes. [00:06:20] Speaker A: They gotta stop anybody from grieving. [00:06:23] Speaker B: Yeah, I don't think grief has, um. I mean, think about all the side pieces in Atlanta that almost crawled into a hole when Martin Luther King died. I mean, I don't. [00:06:34] Speaker C: Okay. [00:06:35] Speaker B: I'm just. Hey, hey. And they didn't come out. They didn't crawl out of their crevices. [00:06:41] Speaker A: They bring a bullshit. [00:06:43] Speaker B: They had to. They had to grieve in silence? I mean, you know, and so I don't. Is that, like, do we have. [00:06:52] Speaker C: Do they have to grieve in silence? [00:06:54] Speaker B: I'm saying no, I'm saying, now, if any of them hooligans that was messing around with King, knowing that he was with Coretta, now, I don't know, dog. That's like somebody. That's like somebody sliding on Obama, like, you. You as the woman. [00:07:13] Speaker A: Wow. [00:07:13] Speaker B: You come on now. That's. That's because you're. Because you're hurting another black woman. So is it her hurting the black. [00:07:21] Speaker C: Woman or is it the man? [00:07:23] Speaker B: No, no. When they have already been elevated to that platform. I think that's what I'm saying is I can only think of someone in Atlanta right now that could. That would be the equivalent to the side piece. And, yeah, I think they have the right to grieve, but how tasteful is the grief? I think you should grieve in this case. Like you said, we don't really know Quan, and he was in this. He was a street, you know, ninja. And so I feel like, you know, when you in the streets like that, stuff like that just gonna come out. So not to say that King went for the streets, but King one in the streets like that. But he was out in the streets with the women, though. And when he died, like, if a whole. If all of them had lined up and poured out and was at the funeral, falling out and stuff, child. [00:08:30] Speaker C: See, and I feel like. I disagree. Air them niggas out. I don't give a fuck if they did. [00:08:36] Speaker B: You gonna air you. You Aaron King out after he died. Girl, stop. [00:08:41] Speaker C: No, you not put that nigga on blast. That's how I feel. [00:08:46] Speaker B: Research team, come get your cousin. No, she ain't doing that. [00:08:51] Speaker C: Because what I was. What is done in the darkest. [00:08:55] Speaker D: Oh, my God. [00:08:56] Speaker C: Come to light, nigga. [00:08:59] Speaker D: I mean, at what point? Like, I guess it depends on what kind of side piece you are. Like, if you're a side piece of someone that's married, then I think it's different grounds, because you knowingly are being disrespectful, not only to you, but to what that marriage is or is not. So if you knowingly are messing with somebody that's married and all parties are not aware or are involved, then that's you. You got to do. No, you have to grieve silently. But if you just. [00:09:31] Speaker B: If you. [00:09:33] Speaker A: 100%. [00:09:35] Speaker D: But if you do, if that's just like, you know, your boyfriend or your girlfriend, like, you not in something that's super committed or super tie like that, then I guess do what you do. [00:09:47] Speaker C: But if. [00:09:48] Speaker D: No, I think it's levels to the disrespect and, nah, you got to grieve quietly. [00:09:55] Speaker C: Why. So why do we feel like the man can get away with disrespect? Why. Why should the side piece. Why should it be the side piece job to make sure the man is intact and that he not. He's not tarnished and that the relationship looks like it was respected from both parties. I just don't think that burden should be on the side piece. I don't think it's. [00:10:22] Speaker D: I don't think. I don't take it from that perspective. Like, she's protecting him. I think it's the. The wife that still is required to be covered and protected even when her husband is not. Because she may be like a. Unlike, literally, like, I ain't even know. And that's another level of grief on top of him being dead. So you mean to tell me I got a buried the love of my life, and then I find out at the funeral, or after the funeral, when he died, that he didn't have all these other people? [00:10:53] Speaker C: Yes. [00:10:54] Speaker D: On top of that grief that, like, that's a different level. [00:10:58] Speaker C: Listeners. If I ever get married, which I probably won't, air that nigga dirt out at the funeral. I can't be grieving delusionally. Air that nigga out so I can move on with my life. Okay, speaking for me. [00:11:16] Speaker D: But see, I don't think that provides any closure. I rather grieve delusionally because then I can't even. There's no action after that. I can't check him. I can't be like, why did you did this? Like, is this. It's like, okay, now what? I got to deal with this and carry this around for how many ever years? Oh, you know, that was such and such, wife. But, you know, at the funeral, it was like three of the side pieces. Like, nah, I'm straight. [00:11:42] Speaker C: Tell me before the funeral. Don't. You don't got to air it out at the funeral. Tell me prior to. So I don't be looking like a fucking fool at the funeral grieving his man and five his bitches in. In the audience that I know about, but I don't do well. I don't like deluding myself. I am not one of them people that's ignorantly, blissfully ignorant of. I need to know what's going on, and I don't. And then people be secretly knowing about the side pieces and looking at you crazy, like, damn, she only know. But, you know, it's okay. We just don't let her be delusional. [00:12:21] Speaker A: And I don't like that business. [00:12:24] Speaker C: I don't like that. If y'all know about the side pieces and then tell me, I'm gonna be mad at y'all. So y'all just let me out here, look stupid. You don't love me. [00:12:35] Speaker D: That's not my relationship, though. And that's not. [00:12:38] Speaker C: I don't. [00:12:38] Speaker D: I feel like that's not my place to tell. [00:12:40] Speaker B: My place to. [00:12:41] Speaker C: So you tell me if my nigga was cheating. [00:12:45] Speaker B: Uh, wow. That y'all married? [00:12:49] Speaker D: Like, what it like, I got boyfriend and girlfriend, or are y'all. [00:12:56] Speaker C: Married? Out with three bitches? Y'all just gonna keep on walking? [00:13:03] Speaker B: No, no, no. [00:13:05] Speaker C: Like, no. [00:13:07] Speaker B: First of all, let me out with three. [00:13:09] Speaker A: He ain't cheating. He pimping. [00:13:10] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah. And let's clarify. I have already been put in this situation with one of our cousins, and I did not hesitate to blow her up and find out what was going on. However, in the process, in doing that, she talked to me in almost ten years. So. Okay. So I'm saying is, if you want that smoke, don't let our. No, no. I'm just saying I think that's why a lot of people mind their business, is because they risk the relationship of the friendship they have with a person or family relationship they have with a person. That. That's what I think. Research team is hesitant. Cause. Yeah. Cause at the end of the day, I see it. And then you get back with him, and then it's like, we gotta have a conversation. Like, just let me know if you asking that of us, are we gonna be cool? Cause it's still f him forever. [00:14:07] Speaker C: And my thing is. Cause I've been in that situation, too. And the person obviously went back to the dude. But for me, I'm talking. I'm talking about twin. If I tell you some shit like that. Cause I love you and you have a negative reaction, then we not that cool. And I'm good on you. I needed to know that. Thank you, girl. So now I know where my place is in your life. [00:14:33] Speaker D: I don't see. I don't. Everybody handles that information differently and receive that differently. So I've told somebody like, hey, such and such. I don't had a text message, the video, all that. The person went. Still stayed with the person, got pissed off at me for being in a business. And we are not cool. [00:14:54] Speaker C: Yeah. And that mean, we weren't supposed to be cool? You are unwell, and I don't need that energy in my life any. I'm okay. So I'm telling you. One, two, three. Dub p research. If y'all see my future husband, ex husband, out with a bitch, you better tell me, okay. And I'm gonna believe you. I don't even got talk to that nigga no more. Y'all told me what it is. It's by okay, I'm done. That really? That went a little longer than I anticipated. Rp rich, homie. Quine side pieces. I see you. It's okay. If you want to grieve, put them videos out there. Okay. How was y'all Labor Day? [00:15:47] Speaker D: Oh, my gosh. [00:15:48] Speaker B: Oh, my God. [00:15:52] Speaker C: My labor day with p money. [00:15:57] Speaker B: Yeah. I was gonna say, did we even do our mental health check in? I feel like you. The grief. Grief. Do that. Don't grief ahead. You driving the boat, bruh. [00:16:05] Speaker C: I was so. I was not. Just don't drink and drive people. I was a little lady on the road last night, just riding to my dog, man. Okay, I'm sorry. Back to the. Back to the agenda. [00:16:20] Speaker B: What's the. [00:16:21] Speaker C: What's where? [00:16:21] Speaker B: So, uh, uh, duh, where you checking in at? What? Show Tim how your. How your mental health, man. How you doing? [00:16:30] Speaker A: I'm Gucci. I mean, you know, I'm a very even keel person. I'm doing good. I can't complain. [00:16:40] Speaker C: Love it. [00:16:41] Speaker B: How you. How you doing, research team? Last time we talked, you was excited for Labor Day. [00:16:49] Speaker D: I'm doing better, you know, than I was before. Still trying to get back up to, like, I don't know, a seven or eight. But I did rest, so that was exciting because, yeah, I'll be working, like, ten hour days, and I was just happy to, like, not have to get up and do something, so. [00:17:14] Speaker C: Yeah, whole season. [00:17:17] Speaker B: Yeah. My dog twin came down and kicked it with me in Peaceland. Appreciated you, sis, for coming through. We had a great Labor Day. [00:17:26] Speaker D: I seen the video. [00:17:30] Speaker B: What video? [00:17:31] Speaker C: Which one? [00:17:35] Speaker D: When you was out on the beach. [00:17:36] Speaker B: Oh, I didn't go out there. I dropped off. [00:17:39] Speaker C: We know. [00:17:40] Speaker B: You know what was crazy was being in Miami. We're in rainy season, hurricane season, and we get those afternoon showers. So literally every day, he wanted to get up and go to the beach. It was. It would, like, pour. And so I was like, you know, I'm a Floridian, so we are good at checking the forecast. And when I tell you the way God held back them clouds for her on that last day. [00:18:11] Speaker C: Baby, the Lord. [00:18:13] Speaker B: Heard my cry because it rained every day. [00:18:17] Speaker C: Every single day. [00:18:19] Speaker B: Every day. She was hill. Yeah. [00:18:21] Speaker C: And the sky was black on Monday, too. You know what? I'm just gonna go out there and pray. [00:18:27] Speaker A: You know what's funny? Not only do we check the forecast, but we could just look at a cloud and be like, now you see that cloud over there? It's gonna rain in about 20 minutes. [00:18:37] Speaker D: Yep. [00:18:38] Speaker C: See, if my stubborn Georgia ass, I'd be like, I mean, it ain't gonna be that bad. I'm gonna just go. And then it starts storming. [00:18:47] Speaker B: Well, that's. Yeah, that's what happened. She, uh. So I guess a good thing about Labor Day is that's the start of football season. And for the most part, I believe all of us are big, you know, sports fans, but we're really into football. And so Saturday, you know, of Labor Day weekend, I feel like we, the last couple, I feel like was that two years ago we was all together. Yeah, we was all together, weren't we? What was we at? Y'all know you weren't there. We went to the game. [00:19:27] Speaker D: See? See? [00:19:28] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:19:29] Speaker D: When y'all call me and y'all was. [00:19:30] Speaker B: Like, that's, that's when duh, was running around in the parking lot. [00:19:38] Speaker A: Missing to this day. [00:19:41] Speaker B: Yeah, I remember that. [00:19:42] Speaker C: I was like, why? [00:19:43] Speaker D: They called me out, of all people. [00:19:45] Speaker A: But really, we was really running around hard Rock stadium for about 2 hours. Sometimes in a golf cart, sometimes in the car looking for my rental. I ain't know where I left it. It was, we was out of there. [00:19:59] Speaker C: And then we just stopped in the middle of the parking lot, started dancing. We don't forgot we was even looking for the car. [00:20:04] Speaker D: It was a lot happening. Yeah, I remember that. It felt like I was, though. [00:20:09] Speaker B: Yeah. I hope in future when we all get in our, in our bag a little bit more, we can resume doing the Labor Day cousins trip. Because I tell you that it's, it's just, it's something about that shift between. And we talked a little bit about it on the pod last week. Um, last time is that you get this shift in seasons, and it's really something different about that shift from summer to fall that I find unique than the other seasons. And so, yeah, it was, it was good. I had a great time. [00:20:51] Speaker A: Definitely get that shift because, you know, you have a, you have a decent summer. Sometimes you sit up and you look around and you'd be like, it's time to go in the house. And that's when fall start I feel. [00:21:03] Speaker C: Like I had that feeling this year, dub, even though I wasn't really, like, outside, outside. I was a little outside, but it was a lot. It was a transitionary summer for me. So at the end of August, it felt like it's. Yeah, it's time for something else. It's time. And I went outside today. It was a little fall, you know, that little fall breeze you get. Mm hmm. Yeah. [00:21:27] Speaker A: Feels so good. It'd be about 60 in the morning now when we get up. [00:21:32] Speaker C: It's nice. [00:21:33] Speaker D: It was like 55 and currently 55 now. [00:21:37] Speaker C: That's too far now. [00:21:39] Speaker D: Well, y'all know where I'm at, so. [00:21:40] Speaker C: I was like, oh, yeah, I know. Package. [00:21:44] Speaker B: I said, wait a minute, I love, I don't know. I love that weather. I love, I love when it get. Yeah, I love the fifties. The fifties. The only thing that's uncomfortable for me and the chill is anything below 30. [00:21:59] Speaker C: Girl, no, I can go to the. [00:22:02] Speaker B: Yeah, I love cold weather. [00:22:03] Speaker C: 65 and up. Me, please, ma'am. [00:22:08] Speaker B: I don't know. It's. The only thing I hate about living back in Florida is I miss, I love it, um, cold weather. I don't like snow. I like snow that fall and leave, but, like, yeah, I really miss, um, I miss it for sure. [00:22:25] Speaker D: It's windy here, too, so it really don't feel like 55. It's probably, like closer to 50. And I said, oh, no, it's 55 right now. It's trying to warm up. It was 55 when I went to get the Amazon package this morning. [00:22:37] Speaker C: And I told you it went straight to winter in Ohio. [00:22:43] Speaker A: I like, they just flipped that switch. [00:22:47] Speaker C: It's cold. It's time to be cold. [00:22:51] Speaker D: Who is closed? Okay. I think it closed, like, right on Labor Day. Like, that's the last day it's open. And then after that, it's a wrap. [00:23:03] Speaker A: Speaking of cold, let's speak of some hot, like the hot girl, which I think about meg new Pepsi commercial. [00:23:11] Speaker C: Oh, I meant to watch that right before. [00:23:13] Speaker B: Okay. Um, I, you know, I feel like, yeah, I was trying to look up famous Pepsi commercials, but I have to say it's one of the best commercials I've seen one because to me, it pay homage to Denzel's new movie coming out, Gladiator. I just love that Denzel took over from Russell Crowe, the, the, the gladiator franchise, and we know he gonna deliver, and we ain't waiting yet. Well, gladiator to come out. And that's what it was homage to was gladiator two. Cause they in the coliseum, and I love that they had Kelsey in there. You know, I'm not a. I'm still. I think black women have kind of forgiven him at this point, but, like, we still kind of not on him, you know, anymore. So I felt like having Meg be the dominant of these players, I thought that played well into her current promotion of her album and what she has going on. And just the divine masculine and feminine energy is very present in the commercial. So it was so many layers, and I enjoyed it. I thought it was great. I like this kind of meg. I did not enjoy Meg twerking at a political rally, to clarify. [00:24:45] Speaker C: So, yeah, okay, now, y'all know I love Meg. That was strange to me. [00:24:54] Speaker B: It was very strange. But I felt like, what the. At that time, the landscape was so strange with amber Rose and Kid rock and Hulk Hogan. Sometimes you gotta match a little strange with strange. That's what it was given to me. But still, I didn't enjoy it, because I don't. I think all twerks are not created equal in certain spots and places. And, you know, I just. I felt like it was giving. I don't know, my place. And not that you need. It's that old saying, right? Like, oh, them old grandmas in the church, you know, know your place, know the time. Place, time. It's time and a place for everything, just like us talking about the grieving side pieces. It's a time and a place for everything. And it was just a little tasteless, but neither here nor there. That when you get a commercial of that size, that means you are officially famous. Cause, yeah, I'm thinking now, I think Cardi B had one. Hers was okay back then. I mean, you know, I really hate it for Cardi B. Cause I lowkey feel like offset is still in some of the best years of her career, to be honest, at this point. Because you laid up pregnant somewhere, and he already outside with another woman. But that's neither here nor there. And, you know, she's one of the most dangerous rappers in the game. And the fact that her peers and colleagues had surpassed her, and she's home, which is fine. Being a mama is fine. Like, let me make sure I land that. That well, but it's giving. Like, I'm just thinking, like, Pepsi commercials. Who's had. I feel like maybe Nicki Minaj might have had one. I haven't seen a good Pepsi commercial. Taylor Swift has had one. I don't think Beyonce has ever done. Maybe Destiny's child did one. I don't know. [00:26:56] Speaker C: Wasn't she paying homage to that old one, that old Pepsi commercial with Beyonce? Them. [00:27:02] Speaker B: That's what I'm saying. [00:27:03] Speaker C: And who else was in it? [00:27:04] Speaker B: And they do. Destiny shall have one, I think, maybe. Yeah. [00:27:11] Speaker C: Kylie didn't she had that controversial Pepsi commercial. Yes. [00:27:16] Speaker D: Unfortunate. Should. [00:27:17] Speaker B: Yeah, she should have never, never did it. Yeah, but she wasn't even. She. Yeah, she shouldn't even been in it because she wasn't. Those, like, the Pepsi commercials for football have always been singers, entertainers. Yeah. Like, I don't. I can't think of having. [00:27:42] Speaker C: Money. [00:27:43] Speaker B: Money. What? [00:27:45] Speaker C: If you got money, you can do whatever the fuck they was out of pocket. [00:27:51] Speaker D: Yeah, I think Pepsi, that was a reach. I was just like, the disappointment. Like, I don't really like the product to begin with, but. Yeah. Huh. Y'all can't find nobody else, really. [00:28:03] Speaker C: I don't know who in them did. My office is making them decisions. [00:28:06] Speaker A: So I gotta see this commercial. I don't know what y'all talking about. [00:28:10] Speaker C: I just. I just looked at it while y'all was talking. [00:28:16] Speaker B: Where's Pepsi even based? [00:28:20] Speaker C: I don't know, but I put with some Mountain Dew. Ain't that a Pepsi product? Sunkissed Harrison, New York. Purchase Harrison, New York. That's where the Pepsi cold headquarters are. [00:28:38] Speaker B: Where? That's Athenae Harrison, New York. I don't know. [00:28:42] Speaker C: Somewhere in New York. [00:28:43] Speaker B: Um, yeah, so research team, that was very helpful. I feel like Labor Day also brings in a new set of movies for the fall to Halloween coming up. I heard it's a Netflix done dropped the deliverance. I ain't seen it yet, but streets been talking about it. [00:29:06] Speaker C: What is that about? What's the. What's. [00:29:09] Speaker A: It's about a. Pretty much a haunting. Pretty much like a black version of the Poltergeist or exorcist kind of. It's like a demon comes out of a house or something. Or is it living in the house or something like that? But what I took away from the movie was, bro, it was some good ass acting in that movie. [00:29:33] Speaker C: Do y'all feel like. Okay, cuz I'm looking up the movie dub. Do y'all feel like they be giving black movies a lesser rating or like, judging them harsher than other movies? Because I don't seen a whole lot of horror movies. What you say? [00:29:52] Speaker A: I said 1000%. It's definitely, I would say is graded on a scale or sliding scale, whatever. [00:30:02] Speaker C: Does this say 33%. And I know for a fact it's better than it looking. [00:30:09] Speaker A: It got a little silly, probably like, the last 20 minutes, like, with the special effects and stuff. But up until then, like, the acting and the story was good and it was based on a true story. [00:30:22] Speaker C: I'm gonna check it out. Oh, go ahead. Research. [00:30:27] Speaker D: I meant to send that to you because I. I wanted to watch it because, you know, I'm not into, like, horror movies like that because I find them funny. I have some sick humor, I guess. You think? Yeah, I watch horror movies, and I'd be laughing because I'm like, this is so unreal. Or it's just like, really bad acting. But I did. [00:30:50] Speaker C: Entertaining part. Yeah, yeah. [00:30:52] Speaker D: But I did hear that people, it's, like, slightly controversial due to the fact that it's, like, talking about, you know, basically it's like a demonic movie. And they were talking about how certain things on set were happening. And, you know, Lee Daniels prayed before they started. [00:31:15] Speaker A: Well, what Andre Dave said was they had an apostle on set at all times, and he prayed before every scene with them. [00:31:25] Speaker C: Yeah, come on, black people. [00:31:29] Speaker A: I thought the movie was good. And this. This movie is no different than the exorcist or Poltergeist or those. Those same demonic movies is literally the same premise. [00:31:40] Speaker C: I'm gonna check it out. I love a good black people. [00:31:43] Speaker B: Yeah, but see, I love movies that are always based on a true story. Most of these exorcist ones are very much like that. And I feel like that's one of those taboo things of black culture, is where we are not willing to confront evil. Right. Evil does exist. I mean, you know, it. It's almost like you can't negate or you can't be dismissive of, like, evil forces. Like, they definitely exist. And I truly enjoyed exorcism movies because of that reason. Because I do believe that there are evil spirits that take over people's. They take possession over people soul and their bodies. And because I just think that Earth is old as hell. Like, think about how many souls, animals, spirit, body, humans have passed through this planet. Planet, right. And so, like, the belief that they just disappeared is ridiculous. And I think that plays into the larger argument about spiritual entities, you know, energies and all that kind of thing. [00:32:58] Speaker C: So I'm glad you said that, because I was really going to say, I feel like we, as black people, we are such a spiritual people, and we believe in spirits and stuff, but we be so afraid to, like, to talk about. It's like Voldemort. I don't even want to be involved. [00:33:16] Speaker A: You can't say that name. [00:33:18] Speaker C: Yeah, you better recognize that evil spirit so that you can cast it out your life. But that's, you know, that everybody ain't tapped in. But anyway, I'm gonna check that out. And speaking of horror movies, I don't know if I talked about this last time I saw the new alien. Okay. For those that don't know, alien is near and dear to my heart because my. It was one of my moms, like, the scariest movie she ever seen. She said, was it an alien? And I always. I used to be scared as a child, but because she talked about how scary they were, for some reason, they just made me feel close to her. So I went to see the new alien. Ten out of ten. Okay, go. [00:34:04] Speaker A: Is Sigourney in this one? [00:34:06] Speaker C: She's not, but, you know, she died watching it. I know, but it was still good. [00:34:12] Speaker B: She. [00:34:12] Speaker C: She died in, like, number three or something, so. And then the rest of them was kind of trash. They had brought her back as, like, an alien clone or something. So I think it would have been weird, but I was kind of sad she wasn't in it, but it was still good, you know, when they make, like, franchise movies and stuff. The fifth one, oh, I don't even know which number this is. Be trash. But I feel like the alien franchise been pretty good. So ten out of ten. Go watch it. Oh, and the blue bullet, it's a black dude in it. And I was kind of mad at first, but they redeemed him, so go watch it. [00:34:55] Speaker B: All right. I'm a big, huge alien fan, but I ain't got no. I ain't going in the movie to go see that. I will scare myself in the comfort. [00:35:03] Speaker C: Of my own home, baby. It was so scary. I was shook if. [00:35:09] Speaker B: Yeah, I don't know. Unless I went with, like, you know, I used to love going on scary movie dates with guys because they're not really that scary to me. But then I would like. I like a good movie. I like a good scary movie that actually can get me. Because I remember seeing, um, the scariest movie I first saw as an. As an adult was, um. Uh, what was the ring? Y'all remember that movie, the ring? [00:35:42] Speaker D: Wait, which one? [00:35:43] Speaker A: I remember. [00:35:46] Speaker C: The grudge that was making that weird noise. [00:35:48] Speaker B: No, it was the ring. I think the grudge came out, made the noise. [00:35:52] Speaker A: The grudge was that weird cat thing. Thing that was an asian one or whatever. And the ring was the little girl coming out the tv. [00:36:01] Speaker C: Oh, yeah. Yeah. [00:36:04] Speaker B: So. So, yeah, scary movies for me are always a little bit different because sometimes nine times out of ten. They don't scare me. But alien is just scary because they do such a good job with the back then the original. Right. The. The set design and all of that. Yeah. It's. Because the only one that's probably the closest I just watched the other day was quiet place with looping. [00:36:36] Speaker C: That's a good one. [00:36:37] Speaker A: My favorite franchises. The first. So good. [00:36:41] Speaker C: I agree. [00:36:42] Speaker B: Yeah. And it's scary, right? Like it reminds me of the last of us. Like, I just like a product elliptic movies and shows I really enjoy. Because those are real, right? Those are the ones that. That's what I'm saying. With alien. I think that what makes it scary is like, we don't really know what aliens look like. You don't know. And they already here, right. And so it's like, I was just talking to my bestie about it yesterday because we were cackling about how bowen send them fools up to space and they can't go get them. And I'm like, ain't no way I'm getting on nothing. Boeing barely flying people right now, a whole year. [00:37:21] Speaker C: What the hell going on with Boeing, bruh? [00:37:24] Speaker B: I feel like the aliens don't snatch they wig. I feel like the aliens don't took away their technology. Because the way we begin, if you can't, how you go from being the premier? I mean, they are the. They were had the monopoly on the playing game. Then y'all just stopped making planes. Okay, like, who does that? [00:37:43] Speaker C: It's going on behind the scenes. [00:37:46] Speaker B: I'm telling you, the aliens don't took a technology away. They got a wig, snitched. So, yeah, we was talking about it yesterday and I was like, yeah, cuz now they got, they stuck up there and they tried, they were, you know, sending them up two years ago, just every other weekend. And now y'all can't go get them. Not something they add. No. [00:38:06] Speaker A: Something because they made it to the space station. But they still can't come back to like next June or something. [00:38:14] Speaker B: You know how hot I be if I can't watch no football. [00:38:17] Speaker A: Okay, but it was only supposed to be up there for two weeks. They gonna be 60 weeks. [00:38:23] Speaker B: That's what I'm saying. Like, think about that. Oh, you pat for a quick trip. Why they can't go get them? They. The module thing. They flew up in malfunction. They gotta send another. They gotta send another capsule up there to go get them. [00:38:40] Speaker C: No, no, thank you. [00:38:42] Speaker D: This is wild. What are you eating? [00:38:45] Speaker A: Do they got an astronaut? They said, no, they got plenty food. They made it to the International Space Station. They got food. [00:38:51] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:38:51] Speaker A: They got stuck. [00:38:53] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah. The, that's the cool thing about having a space station like in theory and that's why it's up there is for reasons like this. But it's just if you, for my space nerds and cadets, if you think back, I had to been like a year or two ago, they were sending rockets up there. It was like the art, the race of commercial space flight. Right. And then now I guess that's kind of tailored down but you still like, if you want to convince me of space travel as a citizen and then you send people in this round, I'm not going to forget that. So I've never going up there unless it's a one way. [00:39:36] Speaker C: One way. [00:39:38] Speaker B: We going to Mars or something. We ain't coming back. I do that. [00:39:41] Speaker C: I can't be on those face. I'm too claustrophobic. [00:39:44] Speaker B: Yeah. Like I'm not going on a return. Yeah. I'm not going on a return trip. I'm not booking a one, a two way trip. No, I'm doing a one way. I ain't coming back. If I leave, don't bring me back. Please let me just. When they make the space station on the moon, then the moon, when we can go from the moon to Mars, and then when we can go from the moon to Jupiter, Saturn, I will take that flight. But I am not going now. No, thank you. [00:40:11] Speaker C: I'm going. [00:40:13] Speaker B: Yeah. You know, and I think a lot of that is like when you think about Boeing and being such a big corporation, it just goes back to the larger conversation about how these major corporations don't have any oversight. And it's just like, how do you just become that big and you like, that's one of the major reasons why I haven't been flying as much is because they've had so many issues with their planes in the last couple years. Well, mostly in 2023, and they probably got it on a gag order now because we're not hearing about it as much. But it's just like, I don't understand how you become that big and you can't do the main thing. You can't keep the main thing, the main thing. And you, yeah. And you're putting people's like lives, right. And so it's interesting because I think when we were growing up, air flight travel was so dangerous. Remember how twa, that flight that felt that on, crashed in the everglades and like, yeah. And so like, I, planes used to crash and like Boeing came out like, nah, nah, nah. We. We make the safest planes, and then y'all do that for, you know, we are old. We're older now. So you'd been doing that for at least 20 years, and then you just. All of a sudden, y'all can't make planes no more. Those falling off windows blowing probably cut costs somewhere pertinent. [00:41:37] Speaker C: If there's somebody who's been in consulting for ten years, y'all will be shocked at the corners. Well, y'all probably wouldn't be, but the average person probably will be shocked at the corners companies cut when they lose in profit or whatever the fuck. And you be like, um. [00:41:57] Speaker B: I don't. [00:41:58] Speaker C: Think that's a good idea, but okay. [00:42:01] Speaker B: I could kind of see that. Because, like, when we even think back to the nineties, right, and big television, one thing that we find now, as we're older, we find out how many major sitcoms either were stolen, like, the actual original written was stolen, and the idea makeup was given to someone else, or they were just cut completely. Yeah. Yeah. So I could see that. Because when I found out that living single have been. And I know that's, like, a crazy pivot, but, like, when I found out living single was piloted and then somehow, some way, sex in the City was stolen was birthed out of. That was crazy. Or they was both piloted at the same time, but they took a little bit of living single. No, it was. It was friends. Friends. Friends. Sorry. I'm sorry. I'll. Sorry. [00:42:56] Speaker C: Living single was ten times funnier than friends. [00:43:00] Speaker B: I never watch friends. [00:43:02] Speaker C: We always watch friends. What you say, though? [00:43:08] Speaker A: I said, I have never seen an episode of Friends. [00:43:11] Speaker B: Me neither. [00:43:12] Speaker C: I used to watch friends because I had this white teacher. We always had these white teachers in magnet, which was weird because it would be, like, the rest of the school would be, like, kind of ghetto. And then we had these white teachers. Anyway, I'm going on a tangent. And she loved friends for some reason and would be like, we'd be in fifth grade, and she just be talking about friends all of a sudden. What the hell is friends? So then I used to watch it, but it was funny, but definitely not nearly as funny as living. [00:43:41] Speaker A: Saying talking to fifth grade is about friends is like, that's for real funny. That's hilarious, right? [00:43:47] Speaker C: Why are we friends all the time? [00:43:51] Speaker B: So, yeah, so that's so out of pocket. Did y'all. What was another favorite 90 sitcom? Anybody had one? [00:43:59] Speaker C: I've been watching them lately because I deleted tv on BET for dad, and he did. They used to be planning random black nineties sitcoms and I forgot how I feel like people don't be talking about how funny them sitcoms used to be. I think my favorite washing maybe Jamie Foxx. [00:44:23] Speaker D: I was gonna say, yeah, the Jamie Foxx show was like top tier. [00:44:26] Speaker A: Jamie Foxx was funny. [00:44:27] Speaker D: Yeah, Martin. [00:44:29] Speaker A: Martin was funny. [00:44:32] Speaker D: What's up, family matters? Yeah, mister Hodgkin. [00:44:35] Speaker C: Family matters was funny, y'all. [00:44:38] Speaker A: Oh, yeah. [00:44:40] Speaker B: Yeah. I was gonna say, yeah. I didn't get the opportunity like I needed to watch any of those things. Um, nah, we had a straight household. That tv was off. That's why I read so much. That's. It was off at 08:00 if it was jeopardy. And will of fortune. And it was go see yourself to your room. So I didn't really, I didn't grow. I had a different experience. I watched a lot of, um. What was the, like, people be baffled that I never saw, um, the Cosby's in perspective, not a, you know. Yeah, yeah. So it's one of those things were like now watching it because I feel like sitcoms are dated and I don't really care for comedy like that. I'm not a sitcom person, so I, you know, owe it to the black sitcoms. I'm with it, though. [00:45:37] Speaker D: You watch a different world. [00:45:38] Speaker B: I did. Um, but again, these are all I had watched, all of these older, like when I, my growing up sitcom was, I saw I stay Lamoon. Like, that was the highlight sitcom. It was the only real thing that I watched. [00:45:55] Speaker D: I used to watch that too. [00:45:56] Speaker B: Yeah. Every day. You more than. Yeah. Right before school. [00:46:00] Speaker D: Yeah. [00:46:01] Speaker B: Yeah. Like, there was no watching, no tv. I'm telling you. Jeopardy. And will afford. And there was no I to. No tv in the house like that. [00:46:10] Speaker C: Jeopardy. Real will of fortune. [00:46:12] Speaker B: Yeah. So jeopardy. [00:46:15] Speaker A: And will of fortune. [00:46:16] Speaker C: Alex Trebek. [00:46:18] Speaker B: Yeah. In the news. You know, you get that channel seven news, WSBN first thing in the morning. That's, I mean, that's, that was it. It was. And we remember we come from a generation of being outside, too. We was outside. We was outside playing. So I really, I can't say those experiences only came later for me. And I don't, and I, but I do appreciate them and so, yeah. Shout out to the 96. [00:46:51] Speaker C: Hanging with Mister Cooper. [00:46:53] Speaker A: Hang on, mister. [00:46:55] Speaker C: We forget about that. [00:46:57] Speaker A: Wayne's brothers. [00:46:58] Speaker B: Wayne's brothers. [00:47:00] Speaker A: Moesha. [00:47:01] Speaker B: Oh, moesha. Now, I used to catch Moesha because that's when Moesha and Monica became rip and Dale. [00:47:09] Speaker A: Yeah, her name is Brandy. [00:47:14] Speaker B: And Brandy. [00:47:15] Speaker A: You said Moesha and Monica. [00:47:18] Speaker B: No, you heard what I said. No. Moisha and Brandon, Moesha and Monica was beating. Beefing. And then everybody was like, nah, nah, nah, nah, nah. [00:47:25] Speaker C: Alesha and Monica was beefing. [00:47:27] Speaker B: They was beefing. [00:47:29] Speaker A: That's what I'm telling you. Her name is Brandi. [00:47:31] Speaker B: I know her name is Brandi, but I don't know for the listeners who remember when. I remember when braids became, like, a staple. Cause at the same time, Serena and Venus was outside with their beads in their head with a. Braids. Like, I used to always get my hair plaited every summer. Yeah. So, like, braids was a big part of culture growing up for me because I couldn't wait to get my plats done and have them for the summer because in the school year, I feel like I didn't really have them. And then when Moesha came out, everybody was like, oh, she got braids year round. Like, that was not a thing before. Not in. Not. Not me growing up, for sure. No, I remember having. [00:48:18] Speaker D: I remember braids, too. [00:48:20] Speaker B: As an adult, every summer, I used to get braids. Yes. It was like, a treat, like, to. [00:48:26] Speaker C: Get braids in middle school. [00:48:30] Speaker B: Nah. But you see, I know my grandma couldn't do no hair, so, like, she was. You know, I had to go to my auntie. Not my auntie. I went to one of our cousins on my granddaddy side. She used to do my hair, so she would do my hair year round and remember, like, French rose and, like, you know, the. Remember. Remember, oh, what's the things? What was they called with the waves? Finger waves. Finger waves, yeah. Like, cuz remember, it was a thing that was. That's a big part of black culture, was when you a kid, you in the box, you at the hair salon every week, if not every other week, you end up doing something. [00:49:05] Speaker C: I just had a thought. Yes. The other day that I'm. I'm going to cut my hair off and get some pink finger waves. [00:49:12] Speaker B: Okay. [00:49:14] Speaker D: Um. [00:49:15] Speaker C: All right. It's gonna be fly. It's okay. Y'all don't see the vision. It's okay. Y'all gonna like it. Look, you'll see. [00:49:23] Speaker D: You know, I cut mine, and people almost dropped. What? [00:49:27] Speaker B: It's beautiful. [00:49:29] Speaker C: Wasn't even that drastic. For real. [00:49:31] Speaker B: Yeah. No, I mean, it's a beautiful look, though. [00:49:33] Speaker C: I love it. [00:49:35] Speaker B: Um, but, yeah. Okay, sir. [00:49:40] Speaker C: See y'all. I'm finna send y'all a picture of the pink finger wave. [00:49:44] Speaker B: I know. Listen, we ain't. No one was judging you. It was just one of those. It was one of those joy pivots that you do. And that one was way that was like across the fence, down the street, around the corner, cuz. And what nobody talk about. No pink finger waves anyways. [00:50:03] Speaker C: Single ways, though. Okay, you're right. [00:50:05] Speaker B: Anyways. But, yeah, so, you know, I feel so. Yeah, let's get at that. Shout out to 90 sitcoms. Bt still showing them out there. You know, one thing that's coming up this week on television, prime time. By the time this come out, we would already have seen the debauchery, the foolishness, the hilariousness. The beams are going to be wild. But we have the us presidential debate coming live on, I believe, Tuesday this week, showing on all networks. And, baby, when I tell you I am going to get my popcorn ready, it's going to be. It's like, I don't know just yet if I'm a watch it live or I'ma wait for the memes because the memes go, you know, they call this the meme, the first meme election, presidential election, the battle of the memes. And an example is, how are we in the upside down, right? So shout out to stranger things. This is the strangest election cycle I think I've ever, I've ever experienced. Close to 2020. It's very strange because this debate gonna. [00:51:23] Speaker A: Be a sitcom itself. [00:51:25] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like this gonna be better than SNL. You know, SNL it is. Cuz snl used to, you know, they. [00:51:38] Speaker C: Usually kind of weak now. [00:51:40] Speaker D: I mean, yeah, they don't have nothing extreme because it's real life now. It's not. They can't joke about it cuz it's happening every day. [00:51:49] Speaker C: But honestly, this, these elections lately make me wonder what previous elections were like. Like before I was tapped into politics because I feel like America's history kind of go in a circle and I just wonder how foolish politics were back in the day. I mean, they had a Watergate scandal, Reagan. Like, I just feel like this can't be the first time that politics was complete trash in history. [00:52:22] Speaker B: I mean, I'm not saying true, I'm not saying not trash. I'm saying it's weird. Like, there is strange. It's an example. There was a. So we know gun violence is out of control in America, has been out of control in America, still is going to be out of control of America because people like their guns and they like their rights, right? And you find that, like you said, we're on this loop right now in life where in, as Doug mentioned, where the real thing is happening. Like the people, you know, getting out of their car and throwing down in traffic or people at the airport showing a hoe behind, right? Like, the extremist behaviors are already happening in real time. And so you have this most recent school shooting that takes place. And, you know, now to get Americans to feel like this is normalized, because think about it. It doesn't even. It's so desensitized now that when it happens, we don't even talk about it. Like, black people still getting killed by the police. We don't even talk about it, right? And so it's this. The sense that. That it's this era, this way of desensitizing things that can be avoidable and preventable in american society. And it's on the ballot, right? When you have Tim walls talking about it at a rally, and then you have JD Vance talking about it. A rally, right? And then you're seeing these two people talking to american citizens. And one says, this is a tragedy. I like guns. I'm a hunter. We should do something about it. The other is like, it's just a part of the way of life. And it's like, is it, though? Like, have we agreed as american people that that's okay? Like, when did we get okay with. And I say, and I say that in this way, when we think about politics and we harped on this last episode, is, what does the american government really do for us? Because we can't even cure fucking cancer. The fact that pediatric cancer is not cured is ridiculous. And that's because of big pharma. Let's talk about it. [00:54:47] Speaker C: Well, I think they probably secretly have a cure somewhere, but I ain't gonna start. [00:54:51] Speaker B: Well, that's what I'm saying. There is. There's a cure. There is some type of cure. Maybe a cure. But I'm saying is, like, these are the things that happen in american society. That. And I know that's like a big rant, but I'm just like, so as a society, we've accepted that school shootings are normal. [00:55:11] Speaker C: Well, I feel like there's a. We talked about this a little. A little bit on the last episode. I feel like there's a broader awakening happening in America. And I feel like Americans are losing control in general. And I feel like after the pandemic for real people eyes really, really, truly started to be open to the B's. And I feel like the divide now is a lot of. A lot of us are like, oh, hell no. What the fuck going on? And some people are just like, I don't know. I feel like they kind of harp on issues like guns and other shit, abortion, to really distract from the fact that the government don't care about none of us. They really not doing nothing for any of us besides billionaires. And the pandemic, I feel like, really showed us just truly how much they don't give a fuck about none of us. And I feel like these is, some of these issues are just really, truly a distraction from the real issue at hand, which is they don't care. We can't afford anything at all. Like, why is the medium, like, income to have to afford a house? $106,000. People don't make that. People barely make $50,000. Like, people can't afford groceries. Every time I go to the grocery store, I spend 300 something dollars. That's ridiculous. We, y'all sent the article to the chat about rent prices that's really been fixed since 2016. But our eyes ain't been open because we talking about abortion and motherfuckers getting shot up and shit. I feel like the shootings, people are unhinged, people are tired, people want a change. And there, we don't know what else to do besides violence, because what else we gonna do. I feel like that's the real issue. For real. [00:57:19] Speaker A: I don't think that people have become necessarily desensitized. I think just going through the pandemic, we all just became kind of isolated. So a lot of people feel like, okay, I got my family. As long as I could protect these 510, 15 people, and they straight, then the rest of the world is gonna figure itself out. But I just need to protect these people. So it's not that people don't care. It's just like, I need to protect what I can first and then think about the rest of it. You know what I'm saying? [00:57:53] Speaker C: And I think people also feel like, what can I do as an individual? What can I do if they're not. If they not gonna make laws to control guns and, you know, who has them and when you can use them in audit, what can I do? [00:58:10] Speaker B: Okay, so. So I'm gonna counter that because this is why. So one thing that I focus on in my actual, like, you know, academic career is how social media and media technology is a tool that gives us so much access to so much information at the same time that it creates a level of. It's almost like a desanitizer. So an example, as we've been on the pod so far, this is breaking news. Dolphins wide receiver Tyree kill was detained by police on his way to the stadium today for a movement violation in his. It looks like a Lamborghini or a Corvette. I'm watching this video, and he's literally on. Face down, face down, right outside the stadium in detained by multiple officers, pressed to the ground, handcuffs. They're trying to. For a moving violation. And you see, people, the only reason why he probably is not dead right now is because multiple people pulled over, just like George Floyd, and started filming sabotage them. [00:59:31] Speaker A: Cops got money on the Jaguars. I ain't with it. [00:59:34] Speaker B: So you see what I'm saying? This is what I'm saying when you say no, we're desensitized because of how we have this access to this technology that we're getting things real time. And I'm. As someone that can analyze and look at things in a very detailed manner, my immediate thoughts were, if there were no cameras around and people didn't recognize him because he's one of the most recognizable people in Miami. You see a black man and a blacked out sports car, you pull him over for a moving violation, and that that constitutes him being face ground with his head pressed against the concrete in Miami right now. My wife says it's 88 degrees. It's a conspiracy, and is he gonna play a good game today? You see what I'm saying? And we only saw that. And so when we talk about the census desensitizing our feelings or what is happening in real time, the perfect example is when that golfer got his behind pulled over. And that morning, before I forget what golf event it was, everybody was just like, you know, they. I mean, the tears of the willows were coming out. [01:00:46] Speaker A: I forgot which I think it was. It might have been Augusta. [01:00:50] Speaker B: It might have been Augusta. But, you know, they. Oh. Oh. Oh, my God. How dare they? [01:00:58] Speaker A: I just saw the video, Tyreek. The bad. The crazy thing is he literally on the street outside the stadium, right? Are you. Are you serious? Pulling him over outside the stadium, outside his job. [01:01:15] Speaker C: It's people. [01:01:16] Speaker D: It's fans walking by, looking at this. [01:01:19] Speaker A: Trying to get the work, bruh. What? [01:01:23] Speaker B: So I love that that was breaking news as we were talking about it, because I'm like, no, they. Big corporations gave us these phones. We have this technology now, and it is a way, it is a tool that is used to desensitize us because we get so much of the human brain is a. Is a. Is a. A perfect. It is a perfect organism, right? It's perfect. And it could do a thousand a million things. But what it can't do is take that much traumatic trauma, visual images in their head constantly over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over. [01:02:11] Speaker D: And. [01:02:13] Speaker B: Because that's like a loop, right? That's a loop of, like, these terrible things that are constantly happening. So I say that to say about, you know, the unfortunate thing about gun violence in America, the unfortunate thing about police brutality in America is it has a level of desusitation because of technology, period. The only reason why George Floyd was more impactful, and I. And I did this in my dissertation, the only reason why it was more impactful than Trayvon Martin was because of the phones. That was it. Because, believe you me, if there were cameras out the night that Trayvon Martin was being chased down by that white man after he was on the phone with the police and the police told him to start chasing him. Come on, now. Come on. [01:03:03] Speaker C: Come on. [01:03:05] Speaker B: So I beg to differ. And I beg to, as we talked about in the next episode, whoever becomes elected in this, you know, current for the presidency of the United States, we gotta hold them to a level of accountability, or things are just going up in themselves and they're just gonna change. And, you know, kind of like, what twin alluded to is like, there's a day of reckoning that that has to happen in America. And it's almost like we fast tracked for it. For real? For real. [01:03:39] Speaker A: Sadly, one of the choices does not take accountability for anything, really. [01:03:45] Speaker B: But that's a. That's a. I just sent that book. [01:03:49] Speaker A: At least one of the choices. [01:03:50] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, no, I mean, I just sent that to the research team is. That's the best thing that I found and why I understand why they do not want us in education. They don't want us reading books is one of the biggest books that I read was by this woman named Susan Gordon. And it's called the nervousness. Nervousness government. And I'm missing up the title just a bit. Research team, pull it up real quick. But I sent it to her because, you know, she had been going through her own struggles in corporate. I'm like, when you realize that accountability is one of the ways that they function, they don't. They don't need to be accountable. Accountability is like the furthest thing from what any major corporate corporation, corporation, corporate job gives a crap about accountability to what the only thing they're accountability accountable to is the shareholders. And really, that's not. That's not even. That's not. That's not them being accountable to them. That's. That's because the shareholders invest and they want their ROI. They need that update, right? So that's why you have on the low all these big corporations firing all these people and you're not hearing about it because what, they desensitize it in a way that, oh, it's normal. It's normal to go to the grocery store and spend dollar 300 every week? Like, that's not normal. It's normal that, you know, a kid can get a rifle from his father for a Christmas gift and then decide to go kill some people in a school. That's normal. And that's the thing. It's like, none of these things are normal. And when we're thinking about this election cycle, you need to be thinking more about, like, what are we going to do about this mess? It's the one, um. It's the nervousness, I believe is called. And those who are listening, I'm telling you, you read this book, it's going. It's gonna mess you up. Race and social equity, a nervous government. Because it really talks about how it identifies all these areas of why, without radicalizing the, the black narrative. Because I believe. I want to say, don't misquote me. Research team. Check it out. I believe she is a white woman. But it really good. [01:06:14] Speaker D: That definitely gives. [01:06:16] Speaker B: It gives. It gives white women. But her book really looks at how America would never have real equity. So that's why I have beef with Vice President Harris, because that's one of her main talking points. It's like, well, we gotta even. We gotta level the evening. We got to level the playing field. And it's like, we all on this pod right now. We all watch football and we know, like you just said, doug, was that, was that, like, how does Tyree go play after that? Was that more about, like, was that just a happenstance or does somebody got, you know, betting, sports betting is so big right now. Was that something more related to that? Like, I don't know, but you really find that in equitable societies, when we're thinking about real equity, like, it's never going to happen. And the gag is, is that you believe that it is. And with that, we're gonna take a quick break on politics. And we might come back to it, we might not. But thank y'all for listening. Welcome back. Welcome back. Welcome back. To clarify, and I'm gonna just say this. Doctor Susan Gooden, I don't know if you're black or you're white or you are of mixed race based on your looks. But I just. I really want the listeners to know, like, your book changed my life. It gave me a different perspective on how race as a construct really impacts our ideas of what we think about when we consider equity. And like, again, if you read that book, it will change your perspective on how much the game is actually rigged. For real? For real. And I just. On the break real quick, I just looked her up, and she is the dean and professor of public administration and policy at L. Douglas Waters School of Government and Public affairs at Virginia Commonwealth University. And again, the professor I was taking at the time, you know, really saw that my engaging in the text was really critical for me as, you know, someone that really looks into policy and how it is created by the people that govern us, that decide these things. And a lot of that came out of George Floyd and police policing over policing, because I never was on the train for defund the police and all that discussion. And that's a pivot that we don't even need to get into. But when you really look at the policies that are put in place by police departments and how they operate, it really gives you a better. It gives you more clarity and understanding, because I took a couple classes at the good FAMU on policing, which were incredible, especially being in Tallahassee at the time. And so, you know, it's just one of those things where it's like when you have a better idea of the structures put in place, it then has you beg to ask the question like, oh, that kind of makes sense. So how do we fix that? Shout out to one. One thing, though, I want to say, since we were talking about policing, this shout out to the sheriff of Broward county. He is a black man and I just really enjoyed him. What's his name? Hold on, y'all. Gregory Tony, I just want you to know, brother. PhD Doctor Sheriff Gregory Tony, I see you. He was just one of the bigger elections of this 20 2024 cycle. And congratulations, man. I really love what you're doing with Brown county, and I just want to give you big ups and with that. Yeah, sports. So, you know, now I feel some kind of way about the dolphins. I hope. I hope that based on the news that was breaking news. Rosenhouse says that Hill will play today. So I hope that motivates. [01:10:29] Speaker A: It was a jug at play, though. [01:10:32] Speaker D: Yeah, I think somebody. [01:10:34] Speaker A: Yeah, it was trying something. [01:10:40] Speaker B: Because they're. [01:10:43] Speaker A: But thank goodness football is back. I mean, this is the first official week of football. Well, NFL football. We have had calls for two weeks and that was a blessing in itself. I got to see our rivals lose two weeks in a row. They lost. I'm speaking about FSU. Sorry all. If y'all fans out there, I am a Miami Kane fam. They did lose in Dublin, Ireland to Georgia tech ACC game. Then they came home and lost the Boston cause. Another ACC game. So they lost on two continents in two weeks. [01:11:21] Speaker C: Go, jackets. [01:11:22] Speaker A: To two different teams. Let's go. [01:11:28] Speaker D: Two different teams. [01:11:30] Speaker A: And you know that the Canes, they did. They rolling right now. You know, it's just they. They looking real good. Probably gonna crack that top ten this weekend. But the NFL, that's today. As of this recording, this is the first official week of the NFL. We did have the Ravens and Chiefs play on Thursday night. That was the first official game. Sadly, the Ravens lost. You know, we were for Lamar just because he South Florida all day Pompano. So I do like I wanted the Ravens over the Chiefs, but the Chiefs, they got a dynasty right now. It's nothing. It's going to be difficult to beat them at any time. So it is what it is. [01:12:11] Speaker B: Yeah. I want you to hold that because we have another breaking news moment happening. As we know, Kendrick Lamar will perform at the 2025 Apple Music Super bowl halftime show. [01:12:28] Speaker A: Okay. They now like us. That's what's up. Okay. Okay. That's big. That's big. [01:12:33] Speaker B: That's you what? [01:12:36] Speaker C: I saw that news about deck. [01:12:39] Speaker B: What happened with that? [01:12:40] Speaker A: What's just got four years, $240,000,000. That comes to $60 million a year. Highest paid NFL player ever, currently. That's crazy because him and Jared been fighting for like months or months. And so they just pay cd. They just paid Dac now. So they locked up. [01:13:01] Speaker B: Okay. [01:13:02] Speaker A: And so ain't gonna do nothing. But I mean. [01:13:05] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah. I was gonna say, you know, it's always a cowgirl nation over here. They are not, you know, they are not America's team. Okay. And we can resume back into the NFL talk. I think the. So I have to ask the question, are we. Are we ready for another dynasty of football? Because you know what's interesting? When you said that I like Lamar just because of obviously being from Florida, but it's almost like in Patty. It's like. It's like it's patty against the NFL at this point. I really feel like, because he came in, because we were talking about deals just now. My understanding is that his first structural contract, didn't he give half of it away to charity? And I really feel like that when he made that pledge, I don't know if he held it up. It'd be interesting to know if he actually paid that money out. But it feels like it's on wolves going on with the Kansas City Chiefs. [01:14:09] Speaker A: Because nothing about no charity. I don't know nothing about that. I never heard that. [01:14:14] Speaker B: If you look up his first con, his first, the. The largest contract he had, he gave half of it away. He pledged half of his salary to charity. He did a Melinda Gates. And it's just, it just is giving. I paid it for. And now the ancestors are rewarding me because we all seen this man, daddy, right? [01:14:44] Speaker A: He is nigger. [01:14:47] Speaker B: Regardless of who he, regardless of who he chose to have, like that. [01:14:53] Speaker A: Everybody that uncle that he is, that's his daddy. [01:14:58] Speaker C: Yeah. [01:14:58] Speaker D: You want. [01:15:00] Speaker B: And if you think about that lineage of black men that has to be flowing through his veins from his daddy. See, Patty just. I feel like Patty is showing us that he, he wanted to heal one on one, regardless of who he's chosen to marry and, you know, procreate with, you know, you know, but for real, for real, I'm starting to feel like, cuz that toe tap, that toe that stopped him from winning the game. The Ravens. That's the biggest toe I ever seen in my life. That's a huge toe. [01:15:38] Speaker A: Rose out, though. [01:15:39] Speaker B: Rose. He was out. But my first thoughts were when I saw it and you, you know, you could tell me, my first thought was like, because I didn't see a real time. I saw the highlights was that man, like, how did he not, the games on this is a game winning catch. How did he not have any spatial awareness of where his feet were? But then it's like, when you see the angle, it's like he got a big old toe. His toe had to be like two inches long. [01:16:09] Speaker A: Nah, he definitely has spatial awareness. The fact that it was that close, that means he really was trying to get that toe in. Now he just, he couldn't do it. [01:16:21] Speaker D: Y'all are silly. [01:16:25] Speaker A: But one thing I did see come across my feed, um, about this particular game, the, the game from Thursday night, Kansas City Chiefs and Baltimore Ravens. There were a bunch of, uh, fair skinned them people that were upset that lift every voice and sing was saying, was saying, uh, during the opening ceremonies, which is crazy because it's not like they replaced the national anthem and did lift every voice and sing. It was just in addition to the national anthem, and people were upset. [01:17:03] Speaker C: I did not. Go ahead research, honestly. [01:17:06] Speaker D: I went to a baseball game recently, maybe like two weekends ago, and they did lift every voice that sing. And four people who do not look like us proceeded to sit down, and then they sang the national anthem, and they proceeded to stand up. I said, it's what we. We all here together. [01:17:31] Speaker A: They can't do two songs. [01:17:32] Speaker C: What's right. [01:17:33] Speaker B: Like. [01:17:36] Speaker C: It is stuff like that. That it makes it very difficult for me not to look at white people sideways because. Why are you upset at that? Why? [01:17:49] Speaker B: You know, it. It's. It's one of those things, though, to be honest. When you are a call, when you're a colonizer and that's what your ancestors were, to be decolonized takes a lot of effort and work, and honestly, it don't feel good to decolonize your mind. And I say that as, like, we talked about this, you know, and we've talked about this offline is as someone that's radicalized now, when you. It took a lot of decolonizing my mind on what I had been taught, and it didn't feel good. So it doesn't feel good to know that they are playing a song that is specifically attributing to the equivalent of the black person's national anthem. Right. So it just doesn't feel good. And that just goes back to being a colonized society or having lasting impacts of, you know, colonization in America, because it would be no different if, like, you know how, like, in New Zealand and I think Australia, they have the haka, which I think is super cool when they do the tribal, you know, either celebration or welcoming. And, like, people are initially. Yeah, people are, like, usually initially, like, weirded out by it, but, like, it's super powerful and you can't help but, like, be moved. It's like, how dare black people have a song that lifts them out of their emancipated. You know? [01:19:27] Speaker A: I was actually thinking of something very similar, because in the NHL, for instance, if they're playing in the United States or whatever, but they're playing Calgary or Toronto or I, Montreal, which are all canadian teams, they'll do the us national anthem and they'll do the canadian national anthem. What's the difference? You're still seeing the national anthem for a nation of people. Yes, we do live in the United States, but black people, just in general, are their own nation of people. So if you don't complain about singing another country's national anthem, what's the. What's wrong with singing the equivalent to ours? [01:20:07] Speaker B: It's that it's, again, you're where we live in a post colonial society, and these are just these conversations that black people, in our own plight and struggle in striving to even live here, don't even attain that. Like, we are actually a nation within a nation, right? And, like, what does that. What does that feel like? And like you said, the. The fact that, like, now, and even a research team, you're at a sporting event, and now they acknowledge, you know, this. This another nation within a nation. It's like, what the. If I see people respond in that way, then you're unwilling to change. You're unwilling to embrace the new. You then want to hold on to the old guard. And I think that's really, you know, that's the one thing I love about being a historian is, like, an example would be what lift every voice and sing was such a beautiful poem that, you know, turned into. That was a song to talk about the pride that black people had to even quote air quotes here, lift themselves out of the poverty and impoverishment and disenfranchisement of slavery to be. To be any. To become anything. And you have a song like that created, which I believe was birthed out of Florida Memorial University here in Miami Gardens. And so it's just. It's one of those things. Things at HBCU, it's just one of those things where, like, black people have always had to create their own opportunities in this nation. Black people have always had to create their own paths. And the. And that goes back to Doctor Gooden's book is like, but there is a large part of american citizens in this country who do not want to let the plane feel even they don't want that. [01:22:14] Speaker A: I think the crazy thing is. Cause I actually read the lyrics to the song. Well, the poem this morning is actually really. It's pretty long, but it's not racially specific to us. It does allude to, like, the plight of the black person and where we came from as far as this country. And it kind of speaks about traveling from Africa to here. And that's, like, in totality of the poem. But the Star Spangled Banner is the story of a battle. Like, you can. You can talk about something that was traumatizing in the Star Spangled Banner, but we can't talk about our plight in this country. Like, that's what's. But it's still not racially specific. They don't say nothing about being black or african or nothing. So it's like, what's the. What's the problem is just a song. [01:23:09] Speaker B: It would be equivalent to, you know, it's just one of those things that, again, one of the reasons why I do what I do now is because this idea that black history is somewhat separate from american history. Black people built America, okay? Like, our blood, our soil, our toil, our tears. [01:23:30] Speaker A: Built. [01:23:31] Speaker B: We built America. And to. To suggest otherwise, it's ridiculous. So have many immigrants who have come into America, built America. That would be irish, that would be italian, that would be chinese. Chinese, you know, and so this idea that, you know, and that's the problem with white supremacy, white, you know, domination is that it wants to whitewash everything. And I give this great example because, like you said, you looked at the lyrics. One thing that I love to bring to the forefront when we think about even something like music or poetry is how much of what we listen to or we tap into in America was created by black people. [01:24:28] Speaker A: I mean, I think all modern music was created by us. Like, look at these girls we got at the top of music right now. Lotto glow. Meg, who we spoke about early in the Pepsi commercial. Cardi. I think they all had pretty good summers. Who y'all think had the biggest one? [01:24:48] Speaker B: So. Mandev. Yeah. I want to say mad, but let me. Let me give a little. A little more to that. Have y'all seen Molly Cyrus lately? [01:25:01] Speaker C: Yes. [01:25:03] Speaker B: It's almost like. [01:25:05] Speaker A: It's like she one of the great. [01:25:07] Speaker C: Whites from, for me, the great white. [01:25:09] Speaker B: She's one of the great whites. She is one of the great whites who now has turned it to the modern day Tina Turner. [01:25:17] Speaker D: What? [01:25:18] Speaker B: It's almost like she was waiting on Tina Turner to die to become her. [01:25:23] Speaker A: I like wild take right there. That was wild. [01:25:27] Speaker B: I just. I say it because one thing that I do, I'm not a swiftie, but one thing I do think that Taylor Swift does best is she maintains that image. The everyday white girl. She maintains it. She holds on to it. She don't stray from it. She really owns that as an artist. And there's a level of appreciation with that. But. And also, that's why I felt like when Beyonce and her always have had this ongoing battle over music, and to even see now that Beyonce was like, well, since y'all won't give me the best out of that genre against her, I'm gonna just be in everybody genre. You see what I'm saying? I'm gonna be in everybody genre now. [01:26:22] Speaker D: Yeah, I'm. [01:26:24] Speaker B: That's the real flex. Guess what I can do? I could be in every single genre. So, yeah, I think. I think it was good to bring in that contest, because with Mega, you know, having the year she had last year and, you know, just the struggle. She. I've been listening to mad since Tina Snow and real area. And when she was signed to, uh, I forget the name of the label that kind of tried to screw her over, but I just, I was a. [01:26:54] Speaker A: Cold Crawford 18 something. It was, it was a number. I do know that. [01:27:00] Speaker C: Yeah. [01:27:01] Speaker B: And so I love that. I think we root for Matt because we, we were there, we saw what she went through and she definitely did. I'm. I would say glow is a favorite second glow, flow bag and Glow are the best rappers out right now. [01:27:18] Speaker C: Lotto say. I think Glow probably had the biggest summer for real. [01:27:22] Speaker B: Um, Meg did. Because Mega can tap into the fact that she got a gloom. [01:27:29] Speaker C: Yeah, I think I gotta say glow. I love Meg, but I feel like the summer was glow, glow, summer for real. I don't know if PM fried 95 degree. [01:27:45] Speaker B: I guess. I guess in context, to have Rihanna be singing your song at the Olympics in Paris. [01:27:52] Speaker C: Yeah. [01:27:52] Speaker B: Yes. I think, yeah, I think you're right. I would say that does bump glow up, but from a, from a delivery of an album standpoint, because, like, again, with glow, I've been listening to Glow since FNN. FNF. And I was just like, that's when she, you know, she had no teeth. She, you know, she was just, you know, straight out streets. And I love those kind of stories because it's just, you know, that somebody like that, they have a for themselves and, like, it takes being lifted up out of those situations to become successful. Right. Like, somebody had to see something in her and be like, I'm gonna take a chance on you. Cause when she filmed FNF, I don't think she was signed to gottem yet. I think that can't. [01:28:44] Speaker D: After what you said, she had no teeth. [01:28:47] Speaker B: Yeah, she had different teeth. She had a teeth she had right now. [01:28:50] Speaker D: Oh, my gosh. [01:28:56] Speaker B: She did. [01:28:57] Speaker C: I've seen this interview. I don't know how old the interview is, but I seen this interview she was doing and she was basically saying how people say, oh, well, the industry made her do this and making her do that. She was like, like, don't nobody make me do a thing, okay? I hope she was a ho. Gon be a hoe regardless. I fuck who I won't when I won't, and that's it. [01:29:27] Speaker B: You know? But that's what I'm saying is I think it took a Memphis entity, like gotti them. I think they CMG or CMC or something like that for them to take to, to sponsor her. That's what I'm saying is I felt like it took somebody from her hood to do that for her because she's, like I said, one of the best. She is hands down one of the better rappers. And I love that her and Meg instantly collaborated together on Meg's new album. And I just, I just think. I think that was. Or was it Glow was on her album either. I think it was both, something like that. But I love that you had Memphis and Texas link up like that because that goes back to those, you know, old school, you know, ugk days, you know, down south, like, chop and screw type music where you had all these southern rappers, like, kind of collaborating, collaborating together to create, you know, incredible music. And so, and it's the opposite of what we saw with Cardi and Nikki and, like, look him where it was almost like, well, I gotta. I gotta have the whole throne. And I feel like seeing big glow and mad collaborate was pretty cool. So, yeah, shout out to both of them. I think they won the summer for sure. Cardi, like I said, I just got different takes on her, but, you know, I wish her the best. And with that, though, we really want to close out the music. Me, when we're thinking about, I really, really love this song. Thank God by tip, Yondro and Kirk Franklin. [01:31:07] Speaker C: You like it? [01:31:08] Speaker B: I love that song. I love that song. [01:31:11] Speaker C: Because, listen, I sent it to the group. I'll send it again. [01:31:16] Speaker B: I love that song. Just because it speaks to. I've seen Kirk talk a little bit. You know, he's had an interesting career, right? And he, he manages to navigate in such a way that, you know, I have my opinions on Christianity and all those things, but I do enjoy good spirituals, and it reminds me of. It gives me a little bit of pocket with the, I ain't mad at you. It gave me that kind of feel, like, you know, because when we heard that pot was gone, and it's like, I want to give black men they flowers while they here. And if I hear a black man just thank God, knowing that he should have been taken out of the. And he not. And he, you know, he giving. He giving thanks to God. Like, I think that's pretty cool and special, especially Dro, because we ain't really seen Dro like that. Drop me on stuff every here and there, but just hearing his voice, I was just like, man, like, I love that. I just love it. [01:32:18] Speaker C: I seen Dro, uh, at the little a town music festival a couple weeks ago, and their shit was so lit shut out the young dro. But I put this on the list because y'all cousin sent it to me, and I feel like he was trying to reach out. You said what? [01:32:43] Speaker D: Oh, okay. I was like, are they not your cousin, too? But I get where we're. [01:32:48] Speaker C: Well, they're not. They're my twin. [01:32:50] Speaker B: I don't know what question it is. I got it. [01:32:53] Speaker D: I know what you think I'm gonna put in, brother. [01:32:55] Speaker C: My brother. [01:32:56] Speaker D: Oh, okay. [01:32:59] Speaker B: Nah, but ain't no reaching out, because like we said, we. I love one of the biggest campaigns of the 2024 election is we ain't going back. I like that. I like that slang. And, you know, I. The abusers have been reaching out, and I don't even respond. So I'm with you. I don't think. It's not a no olive branches for. I don't got. I don't have an olive branch to give nobody for the rest of this year. [01:33:25] Speaker C: I'm just saying that. I'm just. I feel like I just need to get out that it did make me feel some type of way, because music was definitely one of our things. And he know I love tip. So, sir, if you listen into this, fuck you. But I still love you because you my brother. [01:33:48] Speaker B: Okay. And with that. [01:33:50] Speaker C: Yeah. [01:33:50] Speaker B: We're gonna take a quick break, and we're gonna get into the next segment. [01:33:53] Speaker C: Which is family topic of the day. All right, are we ready now? [01:34:00] Speaker B: Yeah. [01:34:00] Speaker C: The new segment that we have, guys, I feel like because we have such a different family dynamic, I don't know if we ever introduced this topic. We have such a different family dynamic than most people that I feel like we can, you know, bring something to the table in terms of things that plague or are interesting in black families. And so today, I think we talked about this a bit last week, but what reminded me of this was when rich Homie Quan died, and his girlfriend. They've been. She been his girlfriend for, like, 15 years. They got kids together. And I know marriage ain't for everybody, but usually in that situation, somebody's stalling on getting married. And so I just wanted to pose the question, and I really won't dub opinion from the male point of view. Why is being a baby mama less of a commitment than getting married? Like, I feel like people be okay with popping out babies for folks, but then when it's time to get married. [01:35:14] Speaker B: Oh, well, no, I don't know. [01:35:16] Speaker C: But you already talked to this person the rest of your life, so that's something that baffles me. And I wanted to bring the question to the group, which I think. [01:35:31] Speaker D: I think for me, um, because I say I'm traditional, but I'm learning some parts are. Anywho, I don't understand it. I don't understand why people have intentionally have children with one person, like multiple children. We're not just talking about like, oh, this is a one off. You have, you know, multiple children with this one person. You are raising this human. You're pouring love, you're educating them, you're developing them, you're showing them, you know, life skills, but you not, you feel like the, the actual marriage is too much of a commitment. That seems odd and slightly off to me, but also it's easier to leave a kid than it is to leave a marriage in some cases. [01:36:31] Speaker B: So. [01:36:33] Speaker D: Yeah, because you could really just up and leave a kid in the marriage. You have to, there's some legality that happens with it. [01:36:40] Speaker C: You have to say it like that. [01:36:42] Speaker D: I'm just saying it's true. [01:36:45] Speaker A: Well, I think, I think that's what makes, you know, being in marriage more difficult. Because when you in a marriage, as opposed to just having the child and raising the child, the child's going to do whatever you say in a marriage, you're dealing with somebody that has their own mind and can think for themselves and can rebut whatever you're saying. So that's, that's the difference in that. [01:37:13] Speaker D: So it's a level of control. [01:37:17] Speaker A: Yeah, for sure. I mean, as, for as far as what makes it makes one easier than the other. Yeah, definitely. [01:37:28] Speaker C: But why would you want to have a tied to somebody for the rest of your life that you're not willing to go through that with that? That just seems strange to me. [01:37:41] Speaker A: Not, but you, but you're speaking about it like on the other side of it, after you've already had the child. Maybe you did one with that person at one point in time, but shit, things changed. [01:37:57] Speaker C: But then it's like, I feel like. [01:37:59] Speaker B: I need more than that. I feel like I need more. You gotta elaborate. That ain't enough. [01:38:04] Speaker C: Yeah, cuz, like, if you like, and I'm thinking specifically of a situation like, you witness person, y'all together for 15 years or whatever the fuck y'all got, you know, the girl want to get married, but you don't want to make that commitment. [01:38:22] Speaker A: Are we talking about just reproducing? Are we talking about being married? Or are we talking about doing both. [01:38:31] Speaker D: Like Jenna Iko and big Sean type thing? [01:38:36] Speaker C: Yes. [01:38:37] Speaker A: Well, I mean, I wouldn't, I don't know if we could talk about that. Cause they just kind of strange in general. [01:38:44] Speaker C: I'm just saying in general, like, in situations that often happen wherever you have multiple kids and y'all are so called in a relationship and have been for years, but not married. And it is not understood that we're not getting married. Like one of the parties wants to get married. [01:39:05] Speaker A: I look at. Look at it. Well, I'll tell you how some. Some men think. That's all. I mean, I don't know how women think. Some men say, I think a lot of men. Gene Chase. So an athlete will look for another athletic woman to have a child with, even though he may not fuck with her like that, but he just want to have a baby with it. Because what that kid could be or a scholar might look for another scholar. You get what I'm saying? [01:39:37] Speaker C: Now, that's interesting. [01:39:39] Speaker A: And this is how men really think like this. I'm telling you. [01:39:43] Speaker D: I mean, I believe you do. [01:39:45] Speaker C: I have never heard that, but that makes sense. [01:39:49] Speaker B: I have Chad. Chad Osinko used to talk about that all the time. All his kids he have kids with. They're all athletes, all of them perfect. [01:39:58] Speaker A: I forgot all about that. But, yes, he did say that all. [01:40:01] Speaker B: Of his kids are athletes. Where he had babies from girls he knew growing up, all his kids, like he was friends with them. And. Yeah. So I would say, though, and this is something that I think tween, you do a okay job with when you talk about these perspectives, because we're leaning into dub to give us some kind of guidance. But at the same time, Doug has actively made the choice not to do that. Right. Like, that's another big thing that we learned when we saw Doctor Bryant's, you know, podcast with Cam and Nick Cannon is. And even on pivot, Ryan Clark talked about it, is that the biggest difference of why those men were able to do that is because they had money. If they did not have it. In a. In a perfect example is Elon Musk has the same type situation. Eli got a whole bunch of kids. [01:40:57] Speaker A: A whole bunch of kids. [01:40:59] Speaker B: Put random people that he's never been married to. He got like eight kids. He might have. [01:41:03] Speaker D: It really doesn't make any sense. [01:41:07] Speaker B: So I think the male dominant that, as Doug was just alluded to, yeah, they do look for the procreation. And I've said it. And so I say that as an alpha personified, you know, the divine masculine is that I have always looked into it like that. Like, all sperm are not created equal. And I look at it like a death sentence. So. So you know that. But most women do not, though. They don't look at it like that. They look at it in the romantic flowery, you know, care bears, clouds and rainbows and shit. And it's like, that's not how 18 years gonna really look. And once they have them, they could give a fuck about them kids, right? And that comes from somebody that was abandoned by their mother. So, like, in perspective, I know what not to do. And so that's why I can. I have abstained from having children. But I think that people. I don't think it's a conversation about commitment. I think it's a conversation about her. You're willing. You're willing to sustain a relationship with someone that, you know, doesn't want to give you a. An outcome that you want. I'm pretty sure she decided to leave. She could find that in another man who will not only marry her, but also to marry her and take care of her kids. But see, that's a lot of hard work, right? That. That's a lot of grooming. [01:42:36] Speaker A: Bing. [01:42:37] Speaker B: You know? And that's the thing that, as divine feminists, we have to understand is, like, we need to be able to walk away from situations that if it's not giving us what we want out of it, leave. [01:42:50] Speaker C: Yeah. [01:42:53] Speaker B: Leave. [01:42:53] Speaker D: I just a p. I feel attacked, but I'll let you know. Offline. [01:42:57] Speaker C: But. [01:42:58] Speaker D: Wow, that's a word. [01:43:01] Speaker B: I mean, and I. I don't know. I didn't. You know, and you obviously know. I have no idea what is that triggering that attack. That's why. [01:43:12] Speaker D: But I know, but I definitely. [01:43:16] Speaker B: Yeah, because. And that's just me being, like, the willingness that we accept in things. And when you have acceptance about the choices that you make, especially when it comes to procreating and commitments, there is a level of willingness that goes with it. And your eyes being wide open. Yes, there are times when you're deceived, and there is a level of deception at play where you might note, see this? The clear picture. But at 15 years, girl, you got the picture. Okay. [01:43:45] Speaker C: Yes. And I'm glad you said that, because I was not trying to allude to, oh, it's completely the man's fault, you know, for wasting your time or whatever, because you people waste your time when you allow them to. So I. But I was just curious about. Y'all know, I'd be wondering about the mind, the psyche. I'd just be curious, like, because to me, if I don't want to marry you. I don't want to procreate with you either. That means I don't want any type of long term commitment to you at all. So I was just curious about, you know, but I'm good enough something to. [01:44:22] Speaker D: Have your child but not your last name. [01:44:24] Speaker C: Yeah, that's strange to me. But I also realized that there are a lot of men who kind of just want to spread their seed around. Like, they have this weird, like, legacy. Like, they want to leave their legacy even though they don't have nothing to leave. So it's just a completely different mindset that and that I don't understand. But now I have insight. It's making sense. So thank you. [01:44:53] Speaker B: Yeah. And again, I think, you know, we can say right into three LW living, learning, and loving all black. It's like when you think about the question of what are some happy life milestones outside of marriage and kids, it's like, as someone that doesn't have those things and. And have success, it's like, I asked you that question when we were on a walk the other day was like, what will define what. What is happy? What is success? Right. And for me, if I decide to have a child right now, I am going in that willingly knowing that I'm going to be a single parent, because I don't. What do I have? You know, I'm not married. I'm, you know, I'm not in a high level commitment. And that would mean that if I willingly got pregnant, that I'm signing up. I'm willing for fully signing up to be a single mother. Right. And what financial responsibility that's going to come with that, that's just about being an adult and the choices and the decisions that, you know, we decide to make. And so will that make me happy? I don't know. But for most women, you know, I just think that's the hormonal part of just being a woman and want to create. And you talked about it to me before, you know, in experiencing pregnancy that, you know, is something that most women like to embrace. But as someone that has both the divine feminine and the masculine personified, I look at it very, very differently. And so. Yeah, what are some. [01:46:35] Speaker C: Yeah, I put this question here. I was interested in your thoughts. I put this question here because I think we talked about this last time. I was saying how most of my friends are, like, getting married and getting pregnant and stuff, and. And I am, like, really happy for them. They look like they're glowing. You know, it's like my friend said her wedding was the best day of her life, you know? And I feel genuinely happy for them, and I want to have the same feeling, but, like, that's not. Those aren't really things that I want. So I just been thinking lately, like, what. What's something else besides, like, getting pregnant and getting married? That's, like, a huge life milestone that I can feel great about or that people feel great about in general. Maybe I just need to have a party for myself. What you finna say, research team? [01:47:31] Speaker D: I think for. For me, and I can only speak for me, like, those are great milestones for people who want to have them, but I think society kind of puts a pressure on you to make you have tunnel vision. Like, that's. That's it. That's. That's what your goal is. You can't have anything else, because if it's not a kid, if it's not a husband, then you're. Something's wrong with you. But people don't talk about, like, the goals you have or milestones you have before you even attain those things. Like, before you can even get to that step. I think for me, one of the major goals or milestones was, like, simply just, you know, graduating from college. I know it sounds, like, small or, like, that's the norm, but to be able to say, I graduated from one of the top HBCUs, if not the number one HBCU, that's. [01:48:28] Speaker C: Want to edit that out? [01:48:32] Speaker D: But also another. Another, I'll say another milestone, you know, after that would just be being able to function as an adult. Like, being able to pay bills and not be, like, extremely broke. Like, I think those are all major milestones because people aren't doing it. Like, people are struggling. So I think for me, it's like, the little things. Being able to, like, find those quiet moments and being at peace with certain things and being able to say, hey, when I was 20, I was. I had this mindset. And now that I'm this big old age, you know, there's been some growth, there's been some acceptance, there's been some realization. So I think being able to say that and being able to look back and say, hey, you know, I grew up. Up a little bit, and I've learned some things, had some life experiences. Those are major milestones for me because people not growing up, people not doing those things, people are really walking around unhinged at a big old age. [01:49:36] Speaker A: I feel that because, like, some of the people, like, you look back and see from high school, you'd be like, you really living like that. [01:49:44] Speaker C: Like, that's true, y'all. [01:49:46] Speaker A: That's what you're doing. [01:49:48] Speaker C: Mm hmm. [01:49:49] Speaker A: We. [01:49:49] Speaker C: Oh, like, yeah, that's true. [01:49:53] Speaker A: That's how you. That's how you. That's how you look. Damn, homie. [01:50:05] Speaker C: Like our two cousins that lost it on Facebook last week. [01:50:12] Speaker A: Let's not go there. [01:50:13] Speaker B: There. Listen, bro, let me tell you something. Let me tell you something so you don't know. [01:50:19] Speaker C: You don't know. [01:50:20] Speaker B: You don't know that I literally have. [01:50:23] Speaker A: No clue what you. [01:50:24] Speaker C: The way they was cousin facetimed for like an hour. [01:50:29] Speaker B: No, we was on for more than that. The cousins. We had some cousins squabbling on Facebook. [01:50:38] Speaker C: Squabbling, bro, over a man. Some man. [01:50:44] Speaker B: We said who we said was rolling around in a grave. [01:50:47] Speaker A: Somebody. Somebody sent me the link because I don't know what y'all talking about. [01:50:50] Speaker B: We ain't even got no, we had. [01:50:53] Speaker C: To get on the FaceTime because she deleted. She don't went on live for 30 minutes and deleted it. But for some reason, P could still. It was still playing for P, so we had to listen, taste. And this person is 37 years old. [01:51:14] Speaker B: Yeah. And we were saying that, uh, who was rolling around in a grave? Uncle Marvin. It ain't, uh. [01:51:21] Speaker C: Delete the. [01:51:23] Speaker A: That's right. Yeah. I gotta come on now. [01:51:27] Speaker B: Well, I mean, Uncle Marvin ain't had nothing to do with it, but it was like. Yeah. It wasn't. It wasn't no direct. [01:51:36] Speaker C: This. [01:51:37] Speaker B: The funny part about how big our family was is which I love listening. [01:51:42] Speaker A: This is how y'all know this shit is real. [01:51:44] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's what I'm saying. [01:51:47] Speaker A: Like family. We are actual. [01:51:51] Speaker B: That's how. That's. That's what I'm saying is it had nothing to do with that uncle. It was he. [01:51:56] Speaker C: If. [01:51:56] Speaker B: If there were some of our ascendant. Ascendant ancestors rolling around in a grave, we were like. It had to be up to, because. [01:52:07] Speaker C: The way in Dove grandma. [01:52:11] Speaker B: Yeah. Because it was like these cousins, my grandma already know. Thank you. [01:52:23] Speaker A: Who you talking about? [01:52:25] Speaker B: Thank you. Thank you. And so, you know, that's the crazy part, was like, we had two cousins squabbling, and the other cousins that know the two cousins, that they. They cool with these cousins, they both. [01:52:42] Speaker A: I've heard about these two cousins fighting before, so. Okay, now it makes a little sense. [01:52:48] Speaker B: And, you know, they on the sidelines. [01:52:51] Speaker C: Hold on. [01:52:52] Speaker D: This not a first squabble. [01:52:55] Speaker A: From what I know. I don't know the whole story. They've been. This is. This goes back years. Like, this is not the first time. Yeah. [01:53:06] Speaker C: Mind you. Delete that. Mind you see, basic. [01:53:14] Speaker D: Mind you. [01:53:15] Speaker B: I didn't. [01:53:16] Speaker D: I was trying to discredit one of the cousins. Cause I was like, nah, they not related. [01:53:21] Speaker B: Yeah, you was. Yeah, you was. [01:53:25] Speaker C: I'm like, y'all sure? [01:53:27] Speaker B: That's one. [01:53:27] Speaker A: That's my first cousin. That's definitely my first cousin. The other one, I don't know. I just heard about this person. [01:53:34] Speaker D: That's what I'm saying. [01:53:37] Speaker C: No, she ain't related. [01:53:40] Speaker D: It's the other one I was talking about that. I was like, I need some facts that's checked, because, I don't know. I had to call my mama, like. [01:53:49] Speaker B: Girl. [01:53:50] Speaker C: No, she is in the family. [01:53:53] Speaker D: She on a branch, bruh. [01:53:55] Speaker C: She own the branch. [01:53:57] Speaker B: That branch is a big old tree, I'm telling you. And that was the funny part about it was like, you know, man, they got. You know, was that, like. It was just a sad day. It was for our family, because, like, I told my. I told our little chat, if you ever come at me on Facebook like that, I am coming for you and your family. [01:54:26] Speaker A: They gonna be like, dark, nasty place, bruh. I do not go on Facebook. [01:54:34] Speaker C: It's nasty over there, bro. [01:54:37] Speaker B: That's why it was so big. Twin and research teams, I never. I am never on Facebook. And the way that the algorithms put. Put that at the top of my list, and I literally dropped it in the chat. I said, who they talk about? Who they talk about? [01:54:55] Speaker C: Cleta, you are the one. Cause I know I wasn't on no Facebook. Oh, yeah. Cause you thought they was talking about. You thought they were talking about the other cousin. [01:55:06] Speaker D: I was on there, but I had, like, bypass. Cause I was like, she always on here talking about something. But then when you p. Had brought it to the. To the chat, I was like, oh, this is serious. What's. What happened? Because you don't never, like. You don't ever be on that thing. [01:55:25] Speaker C: They were wild, man. [01:55:27] Speaker B: I don't partake. And there was a lot of low blows. But I say that to say that. [01:55:34] Speaker C: It was a lot of low blow. [01:55:44] Speaker B: Just know, fam, like, don't ever. Don't ever just listen. We try to rise to higher vibrations on this podcast, but if you ever have somebody in your family call you, a big bet. Yeah, call them on the phone. Don't put it on Facebook. Don't put it on live. Call them and see if they was talking about your back. Cause nine times out of ten, you don't know if they was talking about your back. [01:56:12] Speaker C: That's true. [01:56:13] Speaker B: We don't know who back they were talking about. I heard it's a lot of big backs out there in life, so just let that be a lesson. [01:56:19] Speaker C: Um, hey, man, don't go off on me on Facebook. Pull up on me. [01:56:24] Speaker D: Yeah, let's our ages and not our shoe sizes. [01:56:29] Speaker A: The rest of Facebook probably looking at us like, man, that big ass family from all over Miami. Miami, Richmond Heights, ghouls and ransack. We from everywhere. They wildin on Facebook. You look crazy to the rest of the hood. [01:56:48] Speaker B: The way that the live. One of the cousins was like, the guy who this was all over, he was like, well, I don't want y'all. I don't want you fighting with your cousin. I'm like, now, he ain't saying a lot of smart things, but that's one thing he said that was 100% true. [01:57:03] Speaker C: I'm saying people name delete that part. [01:57:07] Speaker B: I mean, he literally was like, oh, she said he told her not to fight with your cousin. But she was like, nah, she out of pocket. And again, still go have a conversation with your cousin right now. Yeah, don't let Facebook be the vehicle for you. Yeah, don't let it be the vehicle to. And then the crazy thing was, the old heads, you know, they on Facebook, so they watching, too. It was. They was watching, and it was. [01:57:38] Speaker A: I know my mama saw it. [01:57:41] Speaker D: Listen, my mama saw it. [01:57:43] Speaker C: She definitely did. [01:57:46] Speaker B: I was glad we. I'm glad. [01:57:49] Speaker C: Yeah. [01:57:50] Speaker D: I had to tell y'all that offline when I found out. [01:57:53] Speaker B: I. I'm glad I put. I'm glad we put it on wax, because one thing I did promise is when we had the next family reunion, oh, believe me, I'm walking up with my cup of hennessy, and I got something to say. [01:58:03] Speaker A: Name a research team for none. She got that team. [01:58:10] Speaker C: Well, y'all going to Detroit. [01:58:13] Speaker B: I'm going. I want to go. I keep forgetting we from the dean, which makes sense, you know, because we always are pretty trill family at this point. [01:58:24] Speaker D: Where are we not from? Because my, like, my co workers or my colleagues, I always say, oh, I'm going here. I got family here, or I'm going here. I'm got family here. One girl messaged me, was like, you got family everywhere. Where don't you have family, bruh? And I was like, honestly, I don't. [01:58:42] Speaker A: I don't know about Idaho. [01:58:45] Speaker C: Yeah. [01:58:47] Speaker D: At this point, we international waters like bread. We. [01:58:52] Speaker C: We every family. See, we started in the little Georgia florida area. [01:58:59] Speaker A: We started in pike county. We started in Pike county where we started. [01:59:03] Speaker C: We'd be like, man, I got a trap. I got to get out of here. And we'd be spreading our wings and come. It would come back. [01:59:10] Speaker A: We got cousins everywhere. [01:59:12] Speaker C: Yeah. [01:59:13] Speaker D: We internationally known. [01:59:17] Speaker A: And now we internationally known on the microphone. Hey. [01:59:22] Speaker C: Unfortunately. [01:59:24] Speaker D: Oh, my God. [01:59:25] Speaker C: No. Diddy. [01:59:26] Speaker A: What happened with Brad and Judy? I don't know who that is, but what happened with them? [01:59:30] Speaker C: You don't know? [01:59:31] Speaker B: The brat? [01:59:33] Speaker D: The brat and Judy? [01:59:34] Speaker A: I know who Brad is. Who's Judy? [01:59:37] Speaker D: The wife is her butt. [01:59:42] Speaker C: No, thank. So wait, the Brett or Judy? But I don't think Judy booty real. [01:59:51] Speaker D: Oh, okay. No, there were some divorce allegations floating around, like, just on the Internet about them, and basically. [02:00:03] Speaker A: Are they really married? [02:00:06] Speaker C: Yeah, they married. [02:00:07] Speaker D: Yeah, I think, um, legally, yeah. They're. [02:00:16] Speaker B: No, no. [02:00:17] Speaker D: Yeah, she don't pay the brats all the little fees and all that stuff anyhow. [02:00:25] Speaker A: So Judy got more money than the brat. That's what you're saying? [02:00:30] Speaker D: No, I'm not saying that at all. I don't. I don't know. But I'm just saying, like, they're. They're definitely in a committed relationship, because anybody who pays somebody's debt to get out of, like, bankruptcy and all that. And still. [02:00:50] Speaker C: What does Judy do? [02:00:52] Speaker D: She's, um. She owns the hair thing. [02:00:56] Speaker B: Is it big booty Judy? [02:00:58] Speaker D: That's not her. That's not her name. [02:01:01] Speaker B: Yeah. [02:01:02] Speaker A: The way research team said it sounded like she bought her butt. So she became big booty Judy. [02:01:09] Speaker D: I was asking because I was like. [02:01:13] Speaker B: That's what I'm saying. I thought maybe she was, like, the original big booty Judy, the one that was in the movie. [02:01:17] Speaker D: Oh, I don't know. But that's neither here nor there. Back to the divorce rumors. So, basically, long story long, Judy basically said, we fine over here. We don't be in nobody's business. We just be in our house chilling, and y'all need to stay out of. Out of our business. My question or my, I guess response to that is, like, as a celeb, as living in the. In the eyes of, you know, the world, they don't find something to talk about, whether it's true or not. Um, you can choose to respond, or you could choose not to respond, but I just feel like they always going to have something to say when it comes especially to the brat and Judy in their whole dynamics. Like, they have something to say when they got pregnant, they had something to say. When they got married, they had something to say when Judy paid. Like, it's always going to be something. So they not getting divorced, but who. [02:02:19] Speaker C: So who started that room? [02:02:22] Speaker D: The Internet? [02:02:25] Speaker C: I feel like people. Some people secretly don't like that. [02:02:36] Speaker D: Wait, say it again. You broke up. [02:02:38] Speaker C: I said I feel like people don't have, like, that they are like, super happy out lesbians don't care. Just living life. I feel like some people secretly don't like that. [02:02:52] Speaker D: Maybe that's what that is because they really are driving. [02:02:57] Speaker A: I don't think that that's it. Because they not like the level of celebrity that most people would hate on, you know, I'm saying, I don't know. [02:03:08] Speaker B: I think people just are natural haters. I think people don't. People don't like happiness. And for the most part, that's true. It seems like they just are happy or whatever they have defined as happy. And, you know, being out as lesbians and that whole, like, that's. As someone that is not lesbian, that is a whole nother level of relationship dynamics that we will never understand. So the fact that there are rumors and things about, you know, what's going on in a marriage or, you know, x, y and z, it's not actually that surprising. But I just think you'd be surprised how many haters you really have if, like, you was paying attention. So I don't know if the level of fame has anything really to do about it. I just think, you know, they're happy and, like, nobody want to see that. [02:04:02] Speaker C: Yeah. [02:04:06] Speaker A: My hater, though. I'm a big hater. I hate that baby. Chrishan got these two fucked up ass parents that. That he got. Or is it she? It's a her. [02:04:17] Speaker C: It's a he. [02:04:19] Speaker D: Yes. Yeah. He's Chrishan Junior, right? [02:04:23] Speaker C: Yeah. [02:04:25] Speaker A: Like, they can't stay out of. Well, he gotta stay in jail, but come on now. But one of y'all gotta be stable at least a little bit. [02:04:33] Speaker B: What? [02:04:33] Speaker C: Was they even in jail? I saw that and I was just like, lord, let me just keep on scrolling because this is foolish. [02:04:42] Speaker D: I think she had a warrant for her arrest in another state and, like, she had to turn herself in. [02:04:49] Speaker B: Um. [02:04:52] Speaker D: But really, it don't matter. [02:04:53] Speaker A: Yeah. [02:04:56] Speaker D: Like, at this point, they sneeze. They in jail, so whatever. [02:05:03] Speaker C: So they have. [02:05:05] Speaker A: Oh, baby. [02:05:06] Speaker D: I think for me, it's an unfortunate situation because I was like, you know, maybe the kid to make people mature and grow up and, you know, really get their ish together since you have, like, someone who was, like, solely dependent on you. [02:05:22] Speaker B: But clearly that's not the case. [02:05:25] Speaker A: I'm gonna pray for that baby. I'm gonna pray for Judge Mathis, too, because he seemed like he really over his wife, bro. [02:05:36] Speaker D: So I think we talked about this last podcast, but come to find out, he basically, he was like, oh, I'm trying to be a cautionary tale for those people who, like, neglect their spouses and all this other stuff. But allegedly, he alleged. Heavy on alleged. He didn't deny that he was not cheating. And I was like, at yo, at your big old age, sir. What? So when he was going out of town and stuff and, like, you know, saying that he was going for work, I think his wife suspected that it was. It was, like, a little bit more than that. And it's crazy that he talked about escape, like, not answer the question directly as he was getting on a flight to go to work. And I'm just like, bruh, your marriage is basically about to be over. [02:06:30] Speaker A: I think that cameraman was his. [02:06:32] Speaker D: Oh, okay. [02:06:34] Speaker A: It seemed like it to me. [02:06:37] Speaker D: Oh. Like, it was two stage. [02:06:40] Speaker A: That to me, that's just me. It seemed staged to me. [02:06:45] Speaker C: You think so? [02:06:46] Speaker B: I didn't. [02:06:48] Speaker A: Because if you in a rush to get on the flight and he keep taking breaks, acting like he walking away, coming back, finishing what he's saying, I'm like, I think that's your cameraman. Because most. I don't think most people would recognize Judge Mathis in the airport. He kind of looked like the regular. [02:07:12] Speaker C: Yeah, you might be like, he kind of looked like Judge Mathis, but then you gonna keep that just a black. Because he do kind of just look like an old black man. [02:07:22] Speaker D: Wow. So he's regular schmigler. Gotcha. [02:07:25] Speaker A: Yeah, he still got the flat top. Yeah, he's regular degli. [02:07:29] Speaker C: I mean, he had on, like, a gold chain or something. [02:07:33] Speaker D: You're right. You're right. But I just found that odd or, like, crazy that it's. You try to make it seem like, you know, I guess this just happened out of the blue, or you were just like, sir, you about to be on a flight going to work. I would have shut down everything. I would have had to lose money. Like, you know what I mean? Like, I would have had to make it seem like I was trying to fight for my marriage versus saying, I'm a show her. You showing her. [02:08:01] Speaker B: All right. [02:08:01] Speaker D: That this is still not important. [02:08:03] Speaker B: This is. [02:08:03] Speaker D: She's still not a top priority or really a priority at all because you still get on display. [02:08:11] Speaker C: Judge math is old as cheating with allegedly. [02:08:16] Speaker D: I don't know. That's why I'm like, bro, who is. [02:08:19] Speaker A: You know, them, judge. He might. He might got a white man somewhere. You know. You know, promises. [02:08:26] Speaker C: He is old. [02:08:31] Speaker D: Correct. I guess you're never too old to. [02:08:34] Speaker B: Cheat, but, yeah, I was gonna say, did you know that technically, in nursing homes, the highest STD is one of the highest rates of things that happen to them in there? Because they just being, you know. [02:08:49] Speaker A: They just be hunting there. [02:08:51] Speaker C: I'm not saying old people don't be fucking. I'm saying, Judge Mathis, don't give off like Zaddy. Yeah. You know, like, I know he got money. [02:09:03] Speaker B: Don't be the worst ones. Be the worst ones. That's what I was gonna say. Yeah. Yeah. Cause guess who don't get those vibes. And when I seen him on a date in New York, I was like, okay, Stephen A. Smith don't get him a vibe either. And he be pulling them. He be pulling them. That's why he married. He'd be pulling them. He be outside. So don't think that little square Bob. [02:09:26] Speaker A: Square pan was a sniper. Even with that hairline, we knew. We knew he had. [02:09:31] Speaker B: Yeah. That's what I'm saying. Yeah. Don't let the square bar square pants fool you like they be pulling. If you got it. If you a black man with a bad. And you. And you're confident, don't let that be it. [02:09:49] Speaker C: Lord. [02:09:55] Speaker D: I'm just thinking about his hairline. My God. [02:09:58] Speaker B: It's. [02:09:58] Speaker D: I guess it's somebody for everybody to be with or not be with. A cheat on and not cheat on. [02:10:04] Speaker B: He does the right thing by staying single. [02:10:08] Speaker A: That's probably why he made a. But he just. Yeah, whatever. [02:10:14] Speaker B: He seemed like somebody that, you know, think about it. He talk all day, and I would just be surprised to know, if he came home and he did that much talking, I'd be like, come on, bruh. I don't want to hear that. [02:10:26] Speaker C: Stephen A. Smith. [02:10:27] Speaker B: Yeah. [02:10:27] Speaker C: Yeah, I agree. [02:10:30] Speaker A: I get upset when people ask how my day was. [02:10:35] Speaker D: Wow. [02:10:36] Speaker A: Like, please. Like, just please play the game and do nothing. [02:10:44] Speaker B: You know? It's funny. It's funny you said that. It's funny you said that, because I realized that as someone that, as I date, I'm naturally inquisitive. And one thing, that when our cousins. When I was hanging out with him, you know, we're like brother and sister, he was like, you know, you really be asking questions. And it never occurred to me until, like, one day I was asking one of our other cousins that, you know, he out. He. For the streets, and he did. He. We was at his son pop one again. And I was just asking questions, and he was just like, hold on. Who you talk. Why you asking me? I was like, first of all, so you don't like to be questioned? I'm literally asking basic questions, like, where you live at? Oh, you live with your baby mama. What you doing? When. The way he almost ripped my head off, he just looked at me like, why you asking me these questions? I'm like, so wait. Y'all be out here laid up with these men as one of our other cousins put in the chat, and y'all be letting them lead you? And they. They ain't even the supervisor at the. The warehouse. What kind of men are y'all sleeping with? What kind of men are y'all laying up with? [02:11:57] Speaker A: We literally just want as few words as possible. Y'all ask us some yes, no. Ask us yes and no questions. It's not because we don't like you. We just don't want to talk. [02:12:13] Speaker C: Bruh. I can't. [02:12:16] Speaker D: On that note, what we taking shots do? [02:12:19] Speaker C: It's time for shot o'clock. [02:12:21] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah. [02:12:24] Speaker A: We gotta say, um. Rest in peace to Rebecca Chiptag, the olympian who did pass away from her injuries. Domestic violence incident. [02:12:38] Speaker B: Domestic violence is never rest in peace. [02:12:42] Speaker D: 33 years old, burnt by her boyfriend. [02:12:45] Speaker B: Because he couldn't handle. [02:12:50] Speaker A: Man, I'm from the crib. I just don't. I don't understand these dudes that do this type of weird stuff like this. Like, this is. I don't get it. [02:12:59] Speaker B: It's so weird, you know? But it's also. They were african culture. There is a whole. I think we talked about this offline in the chat. There's a whole nother. Yeah, there's a whole nother level of that kind of dynamic. And even just with men in general, like, having possession over another human being and feeling like, now you own them, that's another thing that we deal with in post colonial society, right? Is, you know, this idea that that person, that's your property. And he wanted to. You know, he. He decided to ruin not only his life, but her life as well. And so domestic violence is never okay. It is one of the. For black women and women in the United States, one of the top reasons, above cancer, above heart attacks, above anything. It's domestic violence is one of the number one killers of women in the United States. So that's not just in the US. That's global, as we see. And it is never okay to put your hands on anybody. They do not belong to you. They belong to God. And keep your hands to yourself. And, yeah, with that, I'm taking a shot to the dolphins. I'm riding. Let's ride. [02:14:20] Speaker C: Okay. I'm taking a shot. I got me a new. Y'all know I'm on my fitness journey. I got me a new gallon water jug that I'm trying to finish every day, and I am. I got 35oz left, so I'm gonna take a large shot of alkaline water to my homie, rich, homie quan, a real nigga. Atlanta legend. RP, my man. Rest in power. [02:15:02] Speaker D: I'm gonna take a shot to me taking his PTo this week, period. [02:15:07] Speaker C: I'm taking a shot of that. [02:15:09] Speaker D: That's all I got. Shots to PTO. [02:15:16] Speaker A: I'm gonna take a shot to Rich, homie Kwan. I think he deserves that. Just. He was an error for us. You know what I'm saying? He got it that 2011 to 13, 1415. He was in there. Rich, homie kwan, probably. I'm gonna take a shot to the next 20 hours, uh, because I got to go back to these people's job tomorrow. [02:15:43] Speaker C: Yeah. [02:15:45] Speaker A: And, uh, good, close the summer, because fall is definitely, like, right outside the door, so I'm taking shot to that. [02:15:55] Speaker C: And a reminder to the audience that is still whole season. Okay. Happiness over everything. [02:16:08] Speaker D: All right, y'all. Clink, clank. [02:16:12] Speaker A: And with that, we will, uh, conclude this actually very good episode. Um, we got a lot. We got to a lot. Um, please, please, please follow us on Twitter at call your cousins. C l c a l l y o u r r c o u s I n s. Instagram at call your cousins pod, subscribe to us on YouTube. Also at call your cousins, refer to the Twitter or x as that man with autumn kids calls it now. And our email at call your cousins [email protected]. and hope to see you all next month. Thank you. [02:16:56] Speaker D: Bye.